grandmalynda's commentsComments On: EverythingArticles Blogs Journals Photos created by: Everyonegrandmalynda Dealing with a Narcissistic Mother - Blog Entry11 Jan 2008 09:30 AM Please don't think of me as an over-reactive in law, the examples I gave you are just a few of very very many. Since the beginning of December my poor grandson has had a dreadful cough and has suddenly stopped eating whilst at home, he has gone terribly thin and we don't know whether his once healthy appetite has gone as a result of the cough or as a means of control (!!!!) Incidentally, my grandson loved going to school however, his mother has now secured lots of voluntary work there and is at school most days often 'reading' with his class, suddenly he no longer likes going to school and shows distress saying he doesn't like his teacher. His maternal nanny (the alcoholic) takes him to school and collects him each day apart from one day a week when I collect him. Maybe I am over-reacting!!!!! Dealing with a Narcissistic Mother - Blog Entry11 Jan 2008 05:31 AM Please help me to help my 6 yr old grandson. My ex-daughter in law is so totally narcisstic: lies a lot, delusions of grandeur, considers she is entitled to a much better life, overspends on clothes and expensive haircare for herself, uses people as sources of supply to her total absorption whether negative or positive, constantly tells people what a special person she is, manipulates people to her own ends and then drops them when they are no longer useful, considers that most people are envious of her, often tells my grandson she is not his friend if he doesn't do something she wants him to etc. etc. Already he is showing signs of her abusive behaviour: when he stays at our house he has the need to ring his mummy to tell her he still loves her and needs to tell her he is only staying one night, he has reverted back to bedwetting, despite having always wanted a brother or sister he now says he doesn't want one as mummy and daddy will stop loving him He adores both grandma and grandad and has become clingy to us both, he shares intimate moments with me where (often through his teddy bear) he will tell me things like what teddy thought today and what people said to teddy today etc. etc. I know he is telling me his own thoughts and feelings but using his teddy and I try to be as supportive and non-reactional as possible whilst inside my heart is breaking. As a matter of interest, ex-DIL is the child of alcoholic parents and was, up until meeting my son, often slapped around at home and made to look after her younger siblings in her early years, her father died just 2 years ago. Now that my son and her are divorced her mother has been brought back on the scene to look after my grandson whilst his mother works unfriendly hours. As a point of interest, it is very rare he wets the bed when with us. His daddy works away from home but hopes to change this soon, my grandson stays with daddy on a regular basis when he is home but i know they both miss each other terribly when he's away. What can I do to help my beautiful grandson from becoming a damaged victim????? |
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