HADIT's commentsComments On: EverythingArticles Blogs Journals Photos created by: EveryoneHADIT Dealing with a Narcissistic Family Member - Blog Entry26 Jul 2008 04:59 PM Beth, thank you very much for your quick reply. I guess there really is safety in numbers. Dealing with a Narcissistic Family Member - Blog Entry26 Jul 2008 10:48 AM Hello everyone, First off, I would like to say that I am very happy to have found this blog. I have a NPD mother and have recently opted to ignore her - she did something that for me represented the "last straw". I have since sought therapy (have been once so far) and will continue to do so until I can straighten myself out so to speak. My question is to Beth and all posters really: how does one deal with siblings who cannot/will not see that a parent is problematic and instead choose to blame you? It is my experience that my siblings blame me, and are actually NPD themselves (or is it ME?????) Do you see where I am going with this? Although I have outsiders (friends, spouse, child) who have witnessed the behaviour and agree that my mother is "nuts" (excuse the term, but it's what is used by them) I cannot escape feeling guilty. I wonder if it is because by not "towing the line" I am making them uncomfortalbe? I am slowly getting past the whole afraid of being abandoned by my family syndrome, which is why I have often given in to my mother, but now it is just too much. This has gone on for many many years and it's the root of alot of my insecurities and I need to take responsibility for myself...any insights/suggestions/advice on how to deal with siblings who turn on someone in my position? Thank you in advance ! |
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