Anna Glendenning's comments

Side Effects of Attachment Disorders (Part 1) Introduction. - Blog Entry

27 Mar 2006 05:22 PM

There is a lot of evidence that any child can have attachment disorders. I would say however, your daughter has many reasons to be suffering emotionally with all the things that have happened. Death and Divorce are two of the most difficult things to survive in the first place.

You will see a lot of these kinds of feelings in the adopted children because their losses are much the same, complete change in the family and the Loss of someone they loved. So Grief is a huge part of the adopted child...The attachment part comes as a result of not knowing us long enough to trust us.

If your daughter had a pretty normal early childhood then she likely is dealing with a great deal of grief and loss issues, which are pretty normal considering what your family has experienced in the recent past. The good thing is that she has parents she can trust.

15 year old girls are going through a lot anyway...with all these other issues your daughter does show some of the same feelings our kids do--but, they are most likely ones that you and your family can work through together.

Attachment disorders are usually On TOP of all the other problems and usually are caused when a child suffers neglect, abuse or a change in primary caregivers before they are the age of three years old. When a child has an attachment disorder the parents are dealing with both the attachment issues and the grief, loss and trauma under the attachment disorder.

Biological children can have attachment disorders and these usually result from a child or mother being hospitalized for pro-longed periods of time. Or from neglect and abuse during the very early development years.

I would try to find some good grief therapy for your daughter and hopefully she can work through her pain.

No Car? Do You Still Need Auto Insurance? - Blog Entry

24 Mar 2006 08:22 PM

Thank, most people don't know about non-owner auto insurance and it is a great way to keep your Insurance History so that when someone does buy a car the costs are not nearly as high...Plus anyone who has an assets and drives at all is exposed to some real liability issues. A few hundred dollars a year can offer great protection for someone who drives a company care too.

Side Effects of Attachment Disorders (Part 2) Opposition - Blog Entry

24 Mar 2006 03:51 PM

so far I think the oppositional behavior is the most frustrating! At least having a slight understanding about what makes this opposition a slight bit different than the ordinary helps me understand where it is coming from......

The Birth of Attachment Disorders. - Blog Entry

20 Mar 2006 05:34 PM

Thank you. My biological children are now 21 and 22 and their father is an adoptee. We were together for 14 years and I understand some of the feelings he had. He just reunited with his birth parents who are married to each other! My biological children have just found out the other half of their genetics and it has been so interesting.

I don't believe their father had an attachment disorder. I think that when planning to adopt we tried to minimize the possibility in our own hearts. The truth is that the slightly older child even a few months old, does need some special kinds of care and parenting skills.

Most adopted people do NOT have attachment disorders, many may have at one time had attachment difficulties, and over came them. Attachment is serious but, achievable even with a very traumatized child.

San Diego - Life's a Beach - Blog Entry

20 Mar 2006 05:26 PM

Thank you, for making me HOME SICK AGAIN!!!!! I try so hard nearly everyday to FORGET that I am a San Diego born and raised native! I try to forget because NOW I live in the Pacific Northwest and what these people consider a NICE day at the Beach still includes Gloves and Scarves!

Milk, Chocolate -- Does a Body Good - Blog Entry

16 Mar 2006 08:51 PM

I agree with the fact that chocolate milk is an excellent choice for children. Not all children need hyper restricted sugar intake. Our son in fact is hypoglycemic and some sugars are actually helpful to his overall moods. Something I never would have expected given all the down with sugar information.

I have been giving him a cup of chocolate milk in the mid afternoon with a high carb snack and his moods are much more stable in the late afternoon because he is NOT having super low blood sugar. His Ped recommended chocolate milk and I nearly fell out of the chair hearing such a thing! But it has proven to be the thing he needs in that part of the day and He loves it.

Selling Your Home - An Overview - Blog Entry

16 Mar 2006 08:45 PM

How Funny, Last night we made an offer on our dream house! Thankfully, we knew it was what we wanted before we walked in the door! The seller collects everything I collect and if we had not been sure we were going to make an offer, I would have been completely side-tracked by all the gingerbread and never have been able to see the house!

Buying Your First Home Part 2 - Negotiating Your Offer - Blog Entry

16 Mar 2006 08:40 PM

Janet, Thanks for this great Info! Last night we made an offer (without a buyers agent) for our Dream House!

I hate to say it but, we have tried three agents and lost four houses... Our first time out on our own we had our offer accepted on the spot.

I wouldn't recommend going in without a buyers agent under normal circumstances, but after all the experience we have had with making offers we just didn't want to lose this house! So in our case the agent is acting for both sides. I am sure there can be risks to this.

I look forward to your Selling the House Blogs...we plan to do that after we move.

How to Get an Accurate Auto Insurance Quote - Blog Entry

16 Mar 2006 08:32 PM

Thank you Rob! Do you know if this site offers instant quotes? I have found many lately that take a person through all of the steps, ask all the questions and then end with a page saying an agent will call them back!

I know of a few Auto Insurance companies that offer quotes and even issue the policies all via the Internet but, I have found some sites to be frustrating in the amount of time spent--only to lead to the "we will call you page."

Birth Parents (Part 2) Before and At Placement - Blog Entry

12 Mar 2006 07:51 AM

Thank you Beth, while researching for these Blogs I have actually been learning more than I personally expected.