Anna Glendenning's commentsComments On: EverythingArticles Blogs Journals Photos created by: EveryoneAnna Poetry From Adoptive Mother's to Their Child - Blog Entry10 Mar 2006 06:51 PM Congratulations!!!! Our son turned one year old three days after he was placed, I am still excited about having the opportunity to get those first birthday pictures! It is funny how a few words in a poem can just stick in our hearts. Yesterday my children were home because of a snow storm and I read my 8 year old daughter the poems...while they were a bit over her head, she hugged me and told me she loved me so much after hearing some "mother" feelings....which is wonderful! She liked the first one the most and so do I. Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder: Origins - Blog Entry09 Mar 2006 09:24 PM Beth, Thank you so much for writing this blog... I am the mother of Two OCD's. My oldest daughter suffered without any one knowing what or why she had some "quarks" about her....and My four year old was diagnosed recently with OCD as one of his primary special needs....among a few other's! Of all the special needs issues I have faced I must say, OCD is the most frustrating and difficult to understand as a parent. Thank you for this information....sometimes Knowing is half the battle...battle...battle...battle....battle....My son likes to do and say everything five times! My Adoption Journey - An Introduction - Blog Entry09 Mar 2006 08:11 PM Hi Rachel, this should be a lot of fun working together! I can't wait to read your blogs about International Adoption and the other things you have to share! Anna Another Adoption Blogger Boys & Guns - Blog Entry05 Mar 2006 10:57 PM I am always thinking about the "role models" for my sons.... My little one just loves the Police and I have been far more concerned with his attitude about the little "Knight Stick" that came in the Dollar Store Police toy a bought him a few weeks ago.... When you look at some of the important things boys aspire to become How many of them include a gun? Army men, police and cowboys all have guns.... And in my house those seem to be the things my boys always wanted to become. We just have a 'shooting' rule--no pointing at people or pets including the fish in the fish tank! Or it is a big time out..... Parental Claiming of an Older Adopted Child. - Blog Entry05 Mar 2006 08:53 AM MJ7--I am not so sure in our training that this issue was not covered very well. I think in some cases it is too easy to block it out or forget it. I have often thought the training should be split in two sections--one before the home study and one before the actual matching process...maybe by then all the anxiety about the process will be over and better attention paid to the actual issues of the children? How The Placement Process Interferes With Parents Claiming Of A Child. - Blog Entry05 Mar 2006 08:46 AM Thanks, MJ7 researching and writing this blog really reminded me of the feelings our family had during the waiting and supervision period. While my husband and I had no doubt we were stuck ;) with what we had--we did in fact make little jokes between us, about it not being too late to change our minds... ....and the sad truth is that I have run into so many people who did--change their minds during the early stages of placement..... Boys & Guns - Blog Entry05 Mar 2006 02:28 AM My son used a carrot when he was young. Later he had the Lego problem.... I found Boy Scouts was wonderful for him when he got older. He learned all the safety facts on his way to becoming an Eagle Scout...and now is being considered for a nice career with the government based on his Scouting Record....I guess I am kinda happy he had a fascination with guns as a little one. What is Asperger's Disorder? - Blog Entry03 Mar 2006 04:05 AM Great article! So many people have never heard of this and it is wonderful to have you write about it for all of us. Learning to De-Escalate Emotional Situations With Children - Blog Entry02 Mar 2006 08:21 PM eunkyung--I value your comments on this blog entry. I would hope that most adoptive families do approach parenting with a "family minded focus" I also hope the within the many blogs I write that the whole picture of parenting and adoption might be found. Part of parenting an older place child would include being a spectator of her moods and attempting to identify the root causes, the developmental effects of trauma points, and how as a family her needs and security can be met so that she is able to attach to the parents as much as we have attached to her. Of course, adoptive parents take care of the sum of the child's life experiences, and helping her feel safe, understood and loved. Many parents who adopt older children face situations of sever emotional disabilities, Including such issues as drug effects, and Reactive Attachment Disorder. This blog is just one of many written and many more to come about parenting hurt children. Thank you for your input, I wish that I could just write one complete blog entry to define all aspects of parenting an emotionally disturbed child however, that isn't possible so please continue to come back and read more. Anna Glendenning Learning to De-Escalate Emotional Situations With Children - Blog Entry27 Feb 2006 04:56 PM I know how you feel I wish my parents had these tips! AND I wish I would have known them when I was raising my older children..... |
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