ImAlive's comments

Cycling Outside - Like it? Love it? How to do it? - Blog Entry

21 Apr 2006 06:59 AM

Careful with the wider seats. You will develop calouses regardless of the seat you ride. Small seats make small calouses. Wide seats make large bruises, and calouses on the inside of the thigh. It is not pleasant.

From personal experiece, if you are going to consistently spend an hour or more on the bike stick with the thin seat and tough it out. It takes about 2 weeks, but it's better in the end. (

A.M. versus P.M. Stretching - Blog Entry

21 Apr 2006 06:39 AM

Something for you to research if you're interested... through the night the fluid between your joints (interstitial fluid) builds pressure in the static joints. Since youre range of motion is mostly limited at night the open spaces esp. in your spine fill with more fluid than they normally have at the end of the day.

This means that stretching in the morning, will condense the bursae and flush that fluid into your body. In essence, it becomes wasted. Damaging side effects include arthritic spine, as well as uremia.

The Marriage Guide Book - What Every Husband Needs to Know - Blog Entry

21 Apr 2006 06:12 AM

Protection is helping your wife make the best choices she is capable of making, not, as you said, taking choices from her, and depriving her of the practice she may need to decide issues of import. Kudos.

Women like to be treated like flowers. Caress them, pamper them, tell them they're beautiful, care for all their needs... even the ones you cannot address. In six months you won't remember that you told her she was beautiful. She will.

Conversely, she'll also remember if you haven't said it for six months, and that will cause pain that is hard to heal.

The Marriage Guide Book - What Every Husband Needs to Know - Blog Entry

21 Apr 2006 06:11 AM

Protection is helping your wife make the best choices she is capable of making, not, as you said, taking choices from her, and depriving her of the practice she may need to decide issues of import. Kudos.

Women like to be treated like flowers. Caress them, pamper them, tell them they're beautiful, care for all their needs... even the ones you cannot address.

The Marriage Guide Book - What Every Wife Needs to Know - Blog Entry

21 Apr 2006 06:05 AM

Be genuine. My wife is a doting affectionate woman. Unfortunately, "I love you" means nothing without genuine sincerity. Why do I feel this way? Because the heart can be the root of creation if you let it. Your emotions do not bubble into an empty void, they trickle into the fountain of your mind. They allow new expression to spring forth, where before you merely had old expressions.

I love you... nothing is more worthless than a perfunctory I love you. It takes a passion, covers it with water, and settles concrete on top for good measure. It can even make me feel like a chore rather than a treasure.

Oh, how I love being a treasure.

The Silent Treatment - Blog Entry

21 Apr 2006 05:46 AM

I've found that the silent treatment is a power struggle founded in pain tolerance. The person who wins cares the least.

While it's something that you don't mean to do, you might consider adopting the mentality of meaning "not" to do it.

This will show your husband that you care much more than if he is forced to pry reconciliation from the claws of your unrelenting anger.

Love Means Never Having to Say I'm Sorry - Blog Entry

21 Apr 2006 05:35 AM

Love means never having to say your sorry... it doesn't apply to children, and it doesn't apply to family. It applies to lovers.

This simple statement doesn't mean your should never feel remorse. It means that those slights, real or imagined, are understood to be unintentional. In essence they are forgiven as they happen. Does that excuse problem? No. It simply means that you skip the contrition and move on. Repair the behavior that caused the pain, or miscommunication, and forget the fault.

Love is a quality of being. It's not a transient emotion that fluxes with moods, or events. It's a static characteristic that dates as far back as Eve. Adam loved her because she was, and always had been a part of him, not because her personal characteristics were irresistable.

If we're to wait for the person who never makes us angry, then we're to be lonely forever. If we're to embrace the person who never means us harm, then we live fully in a time of cherished reprieve from the world at large. We immerse ourselves in the comfort of being ourselves, and gratefully forget all the pretense we wear in the presence of others.

Whether it's empty concern for fragile feelings, or a held tongue over suicidal errors in judgement, we all wear masks around the people in our lives. Love means that no mask is necessary. It means that wrongs are forgiven as they happen, because when your lover discovers the pain they've caused, it hurts them more than it hurts you...

... My wife taught me this.

The Five Things You Don't Want In Your Marriage (Part II) - Blog Entry

21 Apr 2006 05:15 AM

More than showing off, it's the most visceral of insults. Your wife is the person who knows you best in the world. She has your confidence, as well as your love. In most cases, your home is the one place you can go to rest, and her arms are cingularly comforting.

A simple comment that falls on deaf ears to most, will gut the trust and the comfort a husband finds in the support of his wife.