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    nervousnewmommy

    Hi ladies [: I recently found out I am pregnant and it has to be the most exciting experience so far:realexc: . The only thing that worries me is the fact that I will be raising this baby on my own. I am young [ turning 20 next week actually. ] But the babies father has made it clear he wants no part of this :( . I wanna know how the singles mothers on here did it and how I can do it without completely breaking down 99% of the time.

    #1045446

    QueenAngie

    Welcome to the board!

    All pregnant women cry. It is the hormones. You have additional concerns with the lack of support from the father of the baby.

    It is scarey to be pregnant. So many hormone changes, body changes, emotional changes. Am hoping you have family and friends to help support you during these months.

    Even if the father of the baby does not wish to be involved physically or emotionally,
    he does have a financial commitment to help with the baby.

    Wishing you all the best! Keep us posted on your progress!

    #1045447

    QueenAngie

    Wanted to add, this is the time to take care of yourself and your baby.

    Take your maternal vitamins daily,
    drink plenty of milk,
    drink milk,
    eat nutritious food daily,
    get rest and sleep well,
    and exercise every day.

    #1045901

    UberMom

    Wanted to say that you CAN do this! Surround yourself with friends and family members that can help get you through the rough patches. Motherhood is a sink or swim adventure for all of us. Amazingly, we all somehow manage to do it and what a blessing to be welcoming a new baby into this world. Congratulations! Keep us posted. We are all rooting for you.

    #1045916

    nvrmnd

    Same situation here, although I have the full support of the father (big difference, I know).

    It seems to me that most young, single mothers have significant support from their parents. My boyfriend and I both want this baby, but we are seriously considering adoption because of the familial support issue: because of their mental health issues, I would not be willing to let my parents look after the child, and his parents still work full time, so they could only offer limited support, at best. I’m not sure if you have calculated the cost of having a baby–in the financial scenario my boyfriend and I put together, child care alone would cost us over one thousand dollars a month (!). So having someone you trust, who is willing to watch over your child for free or cheap, seems like the single mother secret.

    Oh, and happy birthday.

    #1046591

    saradalton

    [quote=nvrmnd]Same situation here, although I have the full support of the father (big difference, I know).

    It seems to me that most young, single mothers have significant support from their parents. My boyfriend and I both want this baby, but we are seriously considering adoption because of the familial support issue: because of their mental health issues, I would not be willing to let my parents look after the child, and his parents still work full time, so they could only offer limited support, at best. I’m not sure if you have calculated the cost of having a baby–in the financial scenario my boyfriend and I put together, child care alone would cost us over one thousand dollars a month (!). So having someone you trust, who is willing to watch over your child for free or cheap, seems like the single mother secret.

    Oh, and happy birthday.[/quote]

    Seems like an awkward situation. If you both are willing to take care and have good intentions for the baby then why to adopt someone that’s not your blood. I can understand that grandparents can’t do much for the baby but it’s your responsibility to take care of the matter rather than relying on them. I wouldn’t suggest you to adopt someone, you both should better plan for your own kid. If you can’t afford it then leave it.

    #1046809

    kara1110

    See if you can come up with some support groups for single moms near you. That would be a great way to swap childcare, etc. And please don’t let pride get in the way of requiring help from the father. Finances will always be the hardest part, and he has an obligation to help in that respect.

    #1046821

    eeveedee

    Omg!! Congratulations :)
    You are excited about having a baby, so maintain that excitement. It is very exciting. Being a mother to a beautiful newborn baby after growing it inside your body for almost a year is a beautiful and wonderful experience! You are so lucky, I am happy for you and this baby who will be born into your love! I have four children with four different fathers. By choice. I understand your fear and hurt at this baby’s father’s reaction. But just forget about it and focus on you and your baby’s future. Him not wanting anything to do with it makes it that much easier for you to move on. You will find a good man for you when the time is right. Don’t even worry about that. A woman caring for an infant is the most natural thing in the world, you can do it. Getting upset is too. You will get upset, you will get over it, you will be a fabulous mother and you and your child will be very happy.
    Live, Love

    #1046823

    ashley092

    Hey congrats aloot..!! the feeling is real amazing and thrilling. You can join an [URL="http://www.childsharing.com"]online parenting class[/URL], to help you out with raising the child alone.

    PS : stay happy all the time it is the best feeling raising some one inside you and time will sort things out. And I know you will do just great!!! Congrats again

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