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Men: The Weaker Sex? - Blog Entry

12 Oct 2008 07:02 PM

Perhaps the key is to surround yourself with more men. Most of my closest friends are men, so I hear their worldview more than those who only have women friends. If all the women around you spend their time [CENSORED]ing about the men in their lives, without highlighting their strengths, it's easy to become "biased" or "jaded."

Men: The Weaker Sex? - Blog Entry

12 Oct 2008 05:28 PM

I'm more of an equalist, I guess. Both genders have strengths and weaknesses; as such I don't see one as stronger or weaker than the other.

Bracing My Marriage for a Depression - Blog Entry

08 Oct 2008 06:46 AM

I understand your concerns, Courtney, and I'm sure there are many other couples who are feeling the same way. Since money problems often destroy marriages, perhaps you could make some suggestions on how to strengthen one's relationship during tough economic times.

What Are You Modeling? - Blog Entry

07 Oct 2008 04:02 PM

Interestingly, I learned how NOT to behave by watching my parents.

Choosing a Wedding Date - Blog Entry

01 Oct 2008 07:30 PM

This blog entry was perfectly timed! My beau and I are shopping for rings right now, but we've already discussed a wedding date. It will be next fall -- we intend to use the lovely autumn foliage as our backdrop -- during the October full moon. Getting hitched in the fall also allows us to take advantage of off-season rates for European travel.

Thoughts on Soul Mates and Single People - Blog Entry

29 Sep 2008 09:25 AM

I am a firm believer in soulmates, always have been. While such a belief can create unrealistic expectations, it doesn't necessarily have to.

I received several marriage proposals over the years, but I had to turn them down. I knew, without a doubt, that those men weren't "the one." Marrying one of them might have lead to a very nice life, but it wasn't the life I wanted. And why settle for anything less than perfect just so I could be married by the time I was 30? Being single was a much better option.

What is "perfect"? No one is perfect. But I knew, in my heart of hearts, that my soulmate was "perfect" for me. There's nothing wrong with having standards; in fact, I encourage my single friends to raise theirs and not accept any joe or jane doe that comes along just so they won't be alone. I'd much rather be alone than be with the wrong person.

So how does one find their soulmate? One, make something out of yourself. How can you expect Mr. or Ms. Right to be amazing if you don't have anything amazing to offer? Two, imagine the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Make a list, if it helps. Choose attributes that are nonnegotiable and stick to those standards. (These will differ from person to person, of course. Mine included someone who was faithful, honest, law-abiding, romantic and intelligent. I wanted someone who loved animals and travel, but wasn't addicted to drugs, alcohol, tobacco or gambling.) Finally, remain open the possibilities of the world. Regardless of whether you meet your soulmate or not, life is short. Make the most of it.

Today's "Why I Got Married, Why I Stay Single" Series - The Single Side of Things - Blog Entry

27 Sep 2008 03:44 AM

If these women were behaving defensively about their relationship status, it was no doubt in reaction to decades of having to explain themselves to their families and friends. Remaining single, by choice or by circumstance, is not entirely accepted in this country. And opting out of the whole "marriage and/or kids" world often makes one a social outcast.

Suppose these women had found their perfect mates, there's no telling whether they would have married them. Some believe in the tradition of marriage; others simply see it as a "piece of paper." And if the love of their life happened to be another woman, most states in America wouldn't even allow a marriage to take place.

I loved being single. I rarely felt lonely because, like these women, my life was fulfilled by work, travel, friends and personal interests rather than by a man. I also love being with my beau; he's an amazing person and his presence is my life makes me happy as well. People simply need to find an arrangement that works for them -- rather than what society or religious organizations dictate to be the only way.

I could never be a stay-at-home wife or a stay-at-home mother. But I can't imagine telling women who make these choices that they'd "be so much happier if..." In the same vein, some folks decide to get married; others don't. I've known couples who've stayed together for decades and their relationship is no less worthy or strong simply because they didn't exchange vows in front of a justice of the peace or a pastor.

Today's "Why I Got Married, Why I Stayed Single" Series - Blog Entry

25 Sep 2008 06:41 PM

You can love someone and spend the rest of your lives together -- all without marriage. So why take the vows?

Oprah's "Why Men Cheat" Controversy - Blog Entry

25 Sep 2008 09:09 AM

That is frustrating! But you know what is even more crazy? Not the lies, the deceit or the screwing around. It's the transmission of diseases to innocent parties who foolishly believed they were in a monogamous relationship.

Oprah's "Why Men Cheat" Controversy - Blog Entry

24 Sep 2008 08:45 PM

The statistic that really stuck with me after watching this show was that 90% of men will lie about their infidelity. Yes, 90%.