Jade Walker's comments

Remembering Titanic: What Would You Have Done? - Blog Entry

27 Apr 2008 06:09 AM

My beau and I have already discussed the topic. I am not afraid of death. Death is nothing. Death comes to us all. But a life without him -- long or otherwise -- is simply not an option anymore.

When we do tie the knot, our ceremony will not include the phrase "until Death do us part." Instead, we plan to use "for as long as we both shall live." So if the boat is going down, we're going down together!

Make Yourself a Priority - Blog Entry

18 Apr 2008 09:18 AM

I truly believe that you'll be better able to take care of your mate, your family, your job and your community if you put yourself first. Stay healthy. Eat right. Find ways to relieve stress. Treat yourself once in a while. Feed your soul with things that make you happy. Basically, take care of you. Do that, and you'll be better prepared to help those around you.

(Don't worry about the selfish comment, Lyn. I knew some people would view my priorities that way. Women, in general, tend to put everyone else's needs ahead of their own -- much to their detriment. I'm just glad you reconsidered my post and understood where I was coming from.)

Where Are Your Priorities? - Blog Entry

15 Apr 2008 08:36 AM

My order is Self, Mate and Career. If I don't have my life in order and my head on straight, I can't be a good mate or writer. Although I didn't do so in the past, I now place my mate above my career. That said, my career is very important to me and I have no problem making it a priority in my life. I'm very grateful to have found a mate who understands the passion I have for my work and gives me his full support.

Thoughts on Polygamy - Blog Entry

15 Apr 2008 08:33 AM

I personally don't have a problem with polyamory or polygamy. If consenting adults want to make a commitment to love, honor and cherish each other, why should society interfere? I do, however, take issue with religiously-sanctioned slavery, forced marriage and sexual abuse...which seems to be the case with this sect.

Another Reason I'm Married Without Children - Blog Entry

08 Apr 2008 09:08 AM

I have many different reasons for being child-free, but I don't ever expect to regret this choice. If you feel will, perhaps it's time to reexamine the issue. Or, once things settle down in your new household, consider dedicating some time to local children who lack parental guidance.

How Strongly Do You Feel Against Divorce? - Blog Entry

04 Apr 2008 10:47 AM

I'm not the least bit religious, but I have utter faith in the power of the marriage vows. One should not break such vows unless extreme circumstances dictate doing so (violence, abuse, adultery).

How Wayne Welcomed His Mother-in-Law - Blog Entry

03 Apr 2008 03:10 PM

Aw...what a sweetheart. Sounds like you married quite a catch!

Big Changes in a Little Marriage - Blog Entry

01 Apr 2008 05:56 PM

A tough decision, but if it's one you two made together, it's the right one. I hope your mother finds her way back to good health soon.

Advertising Marriage? - Blog Entry

26 Mar 2008 06:01 AM

Promoting compassion for ourselves and others is an excellent idea. Teaching children to get along in a world of diverse people is also a wise move. Let's take these two ideas to the next level, shall we?

Let's accept all couples who love each other, even the ones who opt to live together and love each other WITHOUT marriage. Let's accept people who choose to remain single. Let's accept single parent families, families headed by same-sex couples, childfree families, adoptive families, foster families, interracial families, inter-religious families and step-families.

Instead of spending millions of taxpayer dollars advertising marriage as the be-all, end-all of life, we should understand that there are other options, options that make people happy, options that are harmonious and healthy. This understanding will surely make the world a better place to live.

Sex and Marriage - Rekindling the Flames - Blog Entry

24 Mar 2008 05:51 AM

Having a healthy sex drive is not abnormal, nor is it something you should feel ashamed about. At 32, you're nearing your sexual peak; your husband hit his at 18. But, all is not lost!

Try to figure out when your husband is most amenable to sex. So he's not a morning person; that's fine. Perhaps nooners are more his style? Play to that. Try and schedule more relaxation/cuddle time together. If he's constantly working, and exhausted, getting frisky will be far from his mind. However, if he's had an opportunity to chill out a bit, things may head in the right direction.

Other things to consider... Is your husband healthy? Has he gained weight? Stopped exercising? Seen a doctor lately? Health problems could cause a drop in sex drive. Drinking alcohol and taking some prescription medications could also cause desire to drop. Are the other areas of your relationship going well? If not, work to make those right and the libido will kick back in. Seeking out a marriage therapist may help.

Finally, take care of your own needs. Read a romance novel. Visit an adult toy store or Website. Schedule some personal time and find ways to please yourself. That way, you're not always on edge when your husband comes home. Good luck!