Jhshigley's comments

How to Ask for More Sex from Your Husband

21 Feb 2009 03:48 AM

How about when the shoe is on the other foot. I have been dealing with this for years (20+year marriage). I am still in love and very attracted to my wife. However, I feel as though it is not reciprocated. Probably because every time I try to kiss or touch her she jumps. So much for being spontaneous. I have tried on numerous occasions to talk about it. She just blows it off or blames it on the onset of menopause. I guess menopause started in her early thrity's.

She will have sex with me, but it feels more to me like I am being done a favor. I don't really need any favors.

By the way, I'm no slouch either. I haven't let myself go, I am involved with our kids, I share in the housework and sometimes cook (maybe not as much as she does but she does not paint the house, do the remodel jobs, cut the grass, keep the cars up etc. so kinda comes out in the wash). I don't control her, she goes out with "the girls", I am more of a homebody.

To be honest, I don't even want to share a bed anymore -- it is torture. I do have a little pride and far be it from me to be where I am not wanted. I'd rather be alone.

So how do I handle it. I just suck it up and remember my wedding vows and know that I want our children to have both parents. I made a commitment and I am keeping it.