JohnSmith's commentsComments On: EverythingArticles Blogs Journals Photos created by: EveryoneJohnSmith Why Do People Think of Marriage as Hard Work? - Blog Entry27 Feb 2009 03:56 AM http://www.love-sessions.com/ready_for_marriage.htm Why Do People Think of Marriage as Hard Work? - Blog Entry27 Feb 2009 03:46 AM "Work" may not be the right word. I think "effort" would be a better word. A marriage requires "effort". Marriage is like a garden and plants in a garden require care. If a gardener does not water the plants they will die, the same is true with a marriage. Even though a garden or marriage requires effort the result is beautiful flowers or a marriage that results in enjoyment and positive memories. Lack of effort results in dead flowers or in the case of marriage bitterness, resentment, or a death of that marriage. "What I don't get is when you have a couple that have been together a decent amount of time , 5-6 years plus then get married but its too hard work. The only difference between a marriage and relationship is a ring on your finger and a piece of paper you can either never find or is up on your wall. I really can't grasp why some people suddenly destroy their relationship once they get married." A reason could be that in a realtionship people do not spend 24 hours with their partner as a result they do not completely know their partner. Another reason could be that before marriage most people try really hard to impress the other. A guy may reason "If she knows that I leave my dirty clothes laying on the floor she will find another partner and I will be alone". A woman may think "If he knows that I nag he will never marry me". Some people tend to exaggerate all their positive qualities and hide their negative qualities from their partner because they are afraid of losing that person. When people get married all their cards are on the table, nothing can be hidden, and that is the true test of a marriage. Some men/women look at marriage like "Well we are married now, she/he is not going anywhere" and as a result of that kind of thinking they stop making an effort, they fall into a rut. Those people stop going to the movies, fancy restraunts, or just spending time with each other and as a result their marriage start to crumble. Multiple Marriages - Blog Entry08 Dec 2007 07:37 PM I think the problem with people getting married so many times is that people just do not think. They instead act on impulse. They think this person is perfect and they will be together forever, but they dont realise that everyone is not perfect. As a result the marriage fails. I think also it is because people want to do things their own way and everyone should do and see things the way they do, but a marriage is not like that it is suppose to be two people working together not one person controlling the other. |
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