Judi1949's commentsComments On: EverythingArticles Blogs Journals Photos created by: EveryoneJudi1949 The Aging Narcissistic Parent (1) - Blog Entry19 Aug 2007 11:59 AM Beth, Good article that describes the difficult childhood of many of us with a similar mother. What is frustrating slow is knowing what NPD is intellectually and emotionally coming to terms with it. I intellectually understand that I have a sick mother who did the best she could and have a plan in place to set limits while not cutting her off totally but emtionally, I still feel anxious, sad, and tired a lot 2 months later. I feel like this is similar to coping with a death. I see my counselor in 2 weeks but wondered whether medication eases the pain until time and talk heals the wounds. Escaping the Trap of the Narcissistic Mother - Blog Entry18 Aug 2007 12:15 PM Thank you for those supportive words and limit setting ideas. I moved back close to my family 10 years ago to try and reconcile my relationship with my mother before she died and siblings - only to recently acknowledge that it will never happen with any of them due to such long term destruction. I see my counselor once a month due to insurance limitation so I'm getting support and ideas from friends and sites like this one. I know the anger and sadness is destructive to me as well as my husband and children, who just don't understand the degree of emotional destruction, sibling splitting, and poor coping skills this mental illness has caused my 3 sisters and I. For those of you struggling with the same, one limit setting tactic I have decided to use is to write my mother an upbeat newsy monthly letter to avoid verbal contact but still maintain some contact. Escaping the Trap of the Narcissistic Mother - Blog Entry17 Aug 2007 01:25 PM Thanks you for this article. I am 58 woman and just coming to the acceptance that my mother has NPD confirmed by my counselor. The empty hole you describe is so true. That empty hole right now is drained of hope and filled with hurt and anger at the destruction and splitting that she has caused an entire family. What I would appreciate is some tips on how to manage this relationship with my 83 year old mother while I am working through this hurt and anger. I have no desire to be around her but simultaneously feel very guilty that she is facing some surgery. Is is beneficial to set some limits and let her know what those limits will be? I have been her advocate related to her medical affairs but she recently removed me as health care proxy and designated a distant relative in one of her tantrums, which is a recipe for more problems ahead. Comments from those who have been through it are greatly appreciated. I look forward to the aging NPD article. |
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