kcg8483's comments

American Children Are Being Adopted in Foreign Lands

16 Jan 2007 07:00 AM

Can I say that I agree with your whole heartedly! It amazes me that that the "hard to place" are the children of any other race. How can people who desire to have a child more than anything else care what color that baby or child is?? My husband and I are waiting to adopt through the foster care system (any race and gender up to 10 years old - we are 22 and 23) but have found it to be difficult so we are expanding our options to biracial and african american infants. It breaks my heart that my children will be treated as though they are not as special as the white children they "compete" against! This is def. a problem.

After researching so much about adoption I realize that it really could be better for your children to know right away that they are adopted and to celebrate how they came into your lives. Even if the child doesn't look like the parents ... at two years old they aren't going to understand that they were "adopted" but if they grow up knowing it I think it would be better than finding out that surprise at 12 years old.

A friend of mine adopted two children from Taiwan, an African American girl from the United States and had one biological blond hair blue eyed girl. Their family is BEAUTIFUL! I love the diversity!! All of their children (3-8 years old) know they are adopted and love looking at pictures and hearing stories how their parents adopted them! It can be an exciting thing if you make it special.

African American Support of Transracial Adoption

16 Jan 2007 06:44 AM

This is very encouraging because my husband and I are waiting to adopt transracially and have wondered how the African American Community views it as a whole. Did you have your boys as foster children first or did you have them placed with you after the TPR was already take care of?