kimjarena's comments

How Friendly do You Have to Be With Ex? - Blog Entry

23 Nov 2007 12:51 AM

I am dealing with this now. I am the one that left and we have a son who will be just a year old in December. I would like us to be friends but I think I keep hurting him. He wants us to be and I want us not to be. I think we should be friends for the kids (I also have a stepson) but I feel as if he thinks of our friendship on a "Have you earned it" basis and I am a little afraid he will try to use this thinking when custody issues arise with our son.

Don't Open one Door if the Other Isn't Closed - Blog Entry

23 Nov 2007 12:45 AM

Personal Reflection: Dating when one door is still open...I had to read this one because I think I may fall in this category. I do not have hope my marriage will be resolved, I am the one ending it. I have separated but legally I am still married and really need time to heal. I shouldn't even be thinking about dating...but I am leaving a comment so I am obviously thinking about dating. The door needs to close on my marriage and the door needs to open on my emotions. I am not emotionally ready to date and right now, attention from men would only be for validation purposes. I am working on friendships instead.

Learning Not to Repeat Mistakes - Blog Entry

23 Nov 2007 12:34 AM

This blog helped me join this site. I am separated pending divorce and I fear I am doomed to repeat the mistakes that got me to where I am now. I need to be honest with myself about the mistakes I made and try not to repeat them. I hope I do not over analyze while I am fixing my mistakes.

I was married at 19 and I fear one of my mistakes was not giving myself enough time; for myself, between relationshipos, etc. I am working on that. I do not want to leave my marriage and enter right into another relationship all on fear of loneliness.