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Dealing with a Narcissistic Family Member

09 Jan 2008 02:21 PM

Perhaps someone could give me some advice. I have a younger brother who has made a habit of cutting me down in family social situations. This has gone on for many years. Recently while visiting family, I was having dinner with a group of siblings, wives and friends. My brother proceeded to make a blosterous comment concerning how "cheap" I was. So when I responded up that I paid for all the drinks at his engagement party and gave him and his new bride a generous wedding gift, his reply was, "that wasn't s%#t". The same type of comment was made about me, by my brother, at my parents house the next day. I responded by asking him why he was treating me this way? His response was, "You need it". This was a last straw of sorts and I have not spoken to my brother in over a year. I have always been the peacemaker during past incidents but have lately decided that enough is enough. The rest of my family is non-supportive so I am stuck dealing with this myself. My strategy, as of now, is to stay away from him. Unfortunately, most all my family live in one area of the midwest and I live on the Texas gulf coast. I really don't have any desire to visit my family any more because I don't want to deal with my brother. His verbal abuse has begun to affect me as I can't seem to forget about it. I really can't understand why a family member would treat me this way. What should I do?