lawbreaker982's commentsComments On: EverythingArticles Blogs Journals Photos created by: Everyonelawbreaker982 Islam and the Non-Muslim Wife - Blog Entry22 Nov 2008 05:11 AM God gave us the WILL to decide what's right from wrong. I am not saying to use your mind/will only for you to decide properly. You need to use both - your heart and your mind. Don't let one dominate to one another. Knowing that you have kids from your former man, I think it would better you consider your kids before making any decision. You may list down all the advantages and disadvantages so that you can think better. Do consider all the factors around you. Sit down and think of it deeply. Bear in mind that time lost can never be back. Think and decide wisely. No one else can decide for you except yourself. I hope I am able to lighten you up in my little way. Islam and the Non-Muslim Wife - Blog Entry06 Nov 2008 12:19 AM You know SoRoswelian, I will tell you based on what I had experienced having a Muslim boyfriend. Though we were not engaged but the fact is that he is very religious and committed to his family. We discussed openly about about his family who is against of Non Muslim woman. It came to the point that he needed to chooce between me and his family. It was really a nightmare when he told me that he can leave behind his family. Whatever makes them he will do that even if it takes pain from his side. He was not ready to quit our relationship but I made up my mind to stop it. It was a painful decision but I had to do that. The more it hurts me when he was asking me to be his good friend forever. Imagine your boyfriend becomes only your friend. I honestly told him, not now. I need to find myself first. I am sharing you this not to discourage you but think it many times. There are many relationships prospered but there are also gone out of nowhere. If you are sure that he will fight your relationship, well and good. Prepare yourself all the time because everything happens that you least expect it. You amazed their religion but for how long? This was also the question that my ex-boyfriend asked me. Even if you are ready to convert but remember it's not only a matter of conversion. Their religion is the pillar of their life. In short, religion is their life. And you don't need to convince his parents to understand you relationship. Leave it with your fiancee to do that. Non-Muslim Woman: Should You Marry a Muslim Man? - Blog Entry04 Nov 2008 04:37 AM Hi. I am overwhelmed of the responses I have read. I (Roman Catholic) was also in a relationship of an Indian Muslim man who happened to be my officemate but we're in different department. He is an ideal boyfriend and husband but due to cultural and religion differences I decided to cease the relationship with him. We both love each other but he loves most his family. He honestly told me that as much as he wanted to keep me and marry me but he can't for the reason that he don't want to ruin my life in the future. He is very religious more than the way I do. But conversion is not a solution as what he told me. His parents is against in our relationship and whatever request his parents he will do. The longer the relationship, the more it's going to be hurt and hard to let go. To avoid reaching on that stage I made up my mind because I know it was also difficult on his part. But hearing from his mouth that he can't refuse his parents whomever (muslim woman) they arranged for him because he owes everything to his family what he is right now. Oh God, it hurts! It was very painful to hear that. I felt like someone stabbed my heart. Though he told me to give him time but what for. Even asking for my friendship I can't give it to him. Then my friends advise me that I don't have to hate him because he's been honest to say that we can never be. It took me sometime to give my friendship but I am impressed in his undying patience to wait when I am ready. Now, we are still both singles, no present relationship and good friends. The love we feel for each other is not gone but we just need to stand and open our eyes wide and let for the time to tell. I hope my experience can help to those who are struggling in their relationship, to those who can't decide because afraid of hurting. When you love someone truly, pain, sorrows, happiness are part of loving because you can't truly feel the love when you're not hurt. Learn to accept that there are things won't work out the way you plan to be. |
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