Lea31's commentsComments On: EverythingArticles Blogs Journals Photos created by: EveryoneLea31 Walking the Mother-Daughter Tightrope (3) - Blog Entry22 Mar 2008 12:50 PM We have talked about pregnancy of course. Actually after you having said that, I have been talking to her like the pill is 100% effective and the condom is needed for disease protection. In the new few wks I will suggest to her to plan with her bf what they will do with the possible child BEFORE they have intercourse! Walking the Mother-Daughter Tightrope (3) - Blog Entry20 Mar 2008 10:18 AM Thank you for your input. I actually did contact a therapist. I talked to her first and had planned on having my daughter talk to her alone. I was concerned about my daughter being such a "follower" and not speaking her mind with her peers. The counselor told me she had no advice for me. I have done everything she could think of for a parent to do. She suggested as you did, to keep the lines of communication open as much as possible. She thought sadly, I was describing fairly typical teenager behaviour nowdays. To answer your question yes my husband, her father has talked to her several times. He also talked to the boyfriend. He is "older" father and rather old fashioned, he loves our daughter very much, but does have a rather difficult time talking to her about personal matters. But, he has tried. Once again, thank you for your response to my problem. Walking the Mother-Daughter Tightrope (3) - Blog Entry19 Mar 2008 09:07 AM I did read the the 4th article. It was very good and made alot of sense. It is just SO hard to follow! I hear all the time "you have to choose your battles" and I think that is also what your article is saying. I believe my daughter will have sex because they have been caught "with their pants down" so to speak, by me once when I trusted them to be watching a movie in my living room while I was in the house doing other things, laundry, reading etc and another time by a parent in a parking lot! I also have snooped at her messages on her cell phone and so know how involved they are. She insisted things will go no further and says she doesn't want to have actual intercourse. But, I think they will. I had planned on letting her date unsupervised at 16 which is a few wks away, however even though I have talked to her and told her all the reasons not to have sex I am still convinced she will. I have taken her to our family Dr who also talked her to about sex. I have a rx for birth control, but haven't filled it. I have thought about backing up the dating rule till she is closer to 17 thinking she will be more mature and maybe will make a better decision. In your opinion would that be a good option? Thank you for your articles Walking the Mother-Daughter Tightrope (3) - Blog Entry18 Mar 2008 07:16 PM I am not sure I agree with the idea of just letting teens make their own mistakes about underage sex. Maybe I am just mis understanding your post. I have a daughter who will be 16 in 6 wks. She has a boyfriend of 1 1/2 yrs that will be 17 in 5 wks. They have not had intercourse, but had become very sexual and would have. Instead of letting her make what I think would be a huge mistake, meaning I being sex at 16 is a misake, I went back to only supervised dating. Knowing that if I let her date this boy unsupervised they would be having sex...you are of the belief I should let her do this and make her own mistake? I should add she and I do have a open relationship and so she is very informed about sex, std's, protection etc. |
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