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Should You Confront a Narcissist about their Narcissism? - Blog Entry

06 Dec 2008 04:09 AM

I think, from reading your articles, I might be suffering from severe pms. That being said I wanted to ask for your advice about my husband. He is Italian, born and raised in Italy, and it is where we are currently living. His mother is typical Italian and waits on him and his brothers like she is a servant. My husband has never said to me that he expects that from me, but rather says he is independantly able to care for himself. Yet, if I don't cook and clean or stay busy at home after working all day, he criticizes me and my womanhood, my mother and sister (whom he knows doesn't keep house at all). If I buy him presents they are never things he really wanted. He tells me that I dress in rags, and sometimes refuses to go out in public with me if I am dressed in jeans and sneakers. He can be verbally abusive but tell me I shouldn't take offense because it is the truth. He's not like this all the time, maybe 20% of the time. But when he is like that it's really difficult for me to deal with, and really I don't know how to deal with it. I am at a point in my life where I am asking myself if I am "crazy" because I get so crushed with the words he speaks to me. Also, even though he kisses me alot, I don't really feel an emotional connection from him. I rarely feel like he's expressing his love to demonstrate it to me, but instead because it's something he wanted. I was reading your article about sex and depression, and I really felt like it pertained to me. I crave sex from him because it's when I feel intimate with him, yet he rarely wants to do it. I am not sure if he's narcisstic or if it's cultural, or if it's my emotions? Thank you