lovepoodles's commentsComments On: EverythingArticles Blogs Journals Photos created by: Everyonelovepoodles The Aging Narcissistic Parent (1) - Blog Entry08 May 2009 04:17 PM Thank you Beth, for your insights. I believe you may be right about the process of grief. When my brothers and I realized about 20 years ago that our mother had mental health issues, we all experienced sadness. We each dealt with it differently, and we have all moved on. As we talked about it at her funeral, we all felt a sense of peace. It sounds so harsh to admitt, but we look forward to the future and spending quality, happy times together. Something we were unable to do when she was alive. Have you found Beth, that daughters typically are treated differently than sons, by their narcissistic mother? I wouldn't say that she treated any of us better or worse, just differently. She really hated it that we all got along so well, it almost seemed like she was jealous. Do you have recommendations of other articles or books on NPD? My mothers remaining brother and sister are very similar to her and we have adult cousins who, like us, want to understand why all of our parents were so dysfunctional. We know that our Grandfather, their father, was a sex offender, could this be a big part of it? Thank you for your time Beth, I appreciate your response. The Aging Narcissistic Parent (1) - Blog Entry28 Apr 2009 07:53 PM My brothers and I just lost our NPD mother 3 weeks ago. She was married to our father for less than 10 years. He was never a part of our lives, so she was our only parent. I am 52, my brothers are 57 and 59. It has been a long and difficult life for us all. We learned early to laugh often and to keep our feelings private. We always had each other to confide in. I am personally interested in how other women have coped with the lose of their NPD mother. Though I do not miss her, my feelings are still somewhat confussed. I did distance myself from her as my husband is retired military and we never lived close to her. I do feel guilty that my oldest brother and his family had to deal with her in the last 10 years of her life because she moved to be closer to them. I am not experiencing the typical process of loss and grief that I have felt with other loved ones that have died. I'm wondering what other adult daughters have felt at the death of their Narcissitic mother? |
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