Madre4's comments

The Psychology of Why Married Men Cheat, Part 2 - Blog Entry

12 Mar 2008 02:55 PM

Quote: His ego's a lot more sensitive. He comes first. All men suffer from this. They don't like being anything except first, because not only their moms but society teaches them they should always come first.

In my research I have found men whom suffer from this need to have their egos stroked continuously have insecurities and low self-esteem created by society, as well as their upbringing. I agree, your spouse should be first priority but as a mature adult must understand sometimes children, illness, or responsibilities need to be addressed within reason. I have seen many times a woman who plays the roll of a doting wife with a husband whom feels inadequacy with himself. He turns to another woman to make himself feel important, but an affair does not fix the problem. The problem lies within oneself. Mid Life Crisis is definitely one of those times. Then you have the ones that are repetitive; â€Å"Leopard does not change their spots.” I will end it at that.

Are Little Fibs Harmless? - Blog Entry

05 Mar 2008 04:12 PM

Telling little white lies or not disclosing information to your spouse is the start to ruining your marriage. Eventually being deceitful becomes repetitive, one lie turns too many to cover up for the first. I have been married 17 + years, for the first 16 years I had complete trust in my husband. Last summer I found a resume on our computer, with an email attached from 22 yr. old waitress. The note address him as â€Å"Sweetie”, as well his reply message addressed her as â€Å"Baby”. To make a very long story short he had been stopping after work for 8 months (that I know of) with a male co-worker, all the while telling me he was working late. After one excuse to the next; lie after lie, or I don’t know as an answer. I questioned his faithfulness & honesty to me. After 8 months I have finally came to believe he was not unfaithful, but his lies almost ended our marriage. Being deceitful is NOT being respectful to your spouse and one of the MOST important things to a happy marriage is respect, communication, honesty & trust.