mcmama's commentsComments On: EverythingArticles Blogs Journals Photos created by: Everyonemcmama Is It Okay To Be Angry With God? - Blog Entry20 Nov 2007 05:22 PM I would hope it is ok to be angry with God. I've done it. And that crying out in anger is often done in a spirit of openness where you actually hear the answer coming back at you. It's a time we are really honest with God, and God is honest right back. "Christian" Healing and Mental Health (3) - Blog Entry10 Nov 2007 07:42 AM This is an interesting series Beth, and I am surprised that no one has commented with their experiences. I know of some folks who have gone through some non Christian "New Age" healing rituals, and when those fail are told they have to buy more crystals, herbs, candles, etc. I also know families who have been left out in the cold by "reparative therapies" aimed at gay husbands, only to find when they do not work that they are shoved aside as not having prayed hard enough and now must deal with another layer of deception and shame. Christian response to illness is rooted in a believe in spiritual healing - and faith - and the support is not in "love bombing" but in doing the difficult job of sustaining faith in time of need. For some this is short term, for others (such as those with mental illnesses) it is a long term thing. When I was diagnosed with cancer, many people I did not know prayed for me. Prayed real hard. And my surgery was one of those "miracles" which could be explained away, but I believe it was a miracle. It was AFTER the surgery that I needed the prayer and support, and it was truly God's revelation where I got it - totally unexpected again. My Son's Science Project Is Out of Control - Blog Entry05 Nov 2007 07:51 AM My experience in public schooling a gifted child was that I had to do quite a bit of "home schooling" to counter the effects of boredom and bullying. Most home schoolers I know evaluate the plan for home schooling at least annually. If you have resources available when they are in high school which are more beneficial than home schooling, then by all means use them. But if not, then the gifted homeschooler is definitely going to come out ahead. Watch Using the Term "Dead Beat" in Front of Your Kids - Blog Entry29 Oct 2007 01:14 PM It is hard, and I did not have difficulty with this particular issue. But I do have friends who have had to get state sherriffs to catch up with the dad - and it is very stressful to be raising kids, living in reduced circumstances, working overtime, and just able to scrape by when if the deadbeat lived up to his responsibilities you could afford the extra medical care, or rent a more liveable space in a better area, buy clothes someplace other than Goodwill, and not be so dependent on the charitable goodwill of others. Living in reduced circumstances affects a familie's ability to dream big, and set high goals because so much is just consumed by just getting by. 7 Common DIY Mistakes (6) - Blog Entry29 Oct 2007 01:08 PM Thank you for this excellent series. As a realtor and homeowner (who bought a fixer upper) I really have seen all these mistakes. Expensive upgrades that are misplace, overestimating ability and underestimating time, and figuring costs of guarantees are all in there. Why Homeschool?: Public Schools Have No Obligation to Educate - Blog Entry25 Oct 2007 08:18 AM This is why we have to have NCLB, for all its flaws. And it is flawed. But there is absolutely no accountability otherwise. I sent my kids to private school. Actually, they received very generous scholarships. At this point, it really is charity. But you know what? Those schools have always been accountable to me. There are expectations - they communicate them, they fulfull them, and they expect parents and children to do the same. All I ever got from Public schools was excuses for why my son with the 142 IQ was doing so badly. Always my fault or his. In private schools, we got clear expectations, plans, remedies for the problems. And discipline. Gifted kids tend to live up to their potential in an environment that is not chaotic. Gee, I always thought the problem with appropriate education in public school was that my kid was one of those inconvenient gifted students. Now we find out that all kids are inconvenient if they want to learn something, or if their parents expect it. So much for the politicians who think we should not homeschool or private school, but that good parents like us should support public schools because they need people like us. Yup. You Call That Homeschooling? - Blog Entry24 Oct 2007 09:46 AM Going to the grocery store was important in family child care. There are a lot of educational experiences that can be gained by a trip to the grocery store. Not only identifying the fruit imports, but also calculating which is the better bargain, which is better for you, just what's on those nutrition panels, etc. Not a place for a regular classroom, but certainly a setting for critical thinking skills to be applied. Yeah, maybe public schools do need to schedule a trip to the grocery store. And in NYC, there are a lot of markets and such that could be valuable experiences. At least you don't live near the beach, where there are all sorts of frivolous extras to learn about, like tides, types of shellfish, aquatic life in general, food chains, composition of sand and why it is different colors on different beaches....not to mention physical exercise. Or you don't have airline employee passes that entitle you to fly free to costa rica when you want to study the rainforest up close, like one family I know of did..... Gosh, why aren't those children in school!!!! On the other hand, how come the lady who was asking all the questions did not learn in school how to be polite enough to mind her own business???? Courthouse Research Blogs in Summary - Blog Entry14 Oct 2007 06:05 AM Where I am, (NJ) the information online would be very incomplete, so you would need to go to the courthouse. Also I found when I was a realtor, that due to the overwhelming volume of home sales and refinanced mortgages, there was a backlog in my area of recording deeds. This meant that title companies might not be able to turn up clear title in their research for a home that flipped within six months. When you find information online, you only find what people have put online. When you go to the courthouse or town hall. they have to give you the records that are available to the public. Defending Yourself Against the Aging Narcissist (1) - Blog Entry13 Oct 2007 06:45 AM That's very true about getting angry with a narcissist and showing it. My ex husband used to deliberately provoke me until I was shouting or crying or both - and then he would be very calm and apparently enjoy the show. He loved doing thing just before he had invited someone to stop by so they could see me being a wreck. I guess this was his nutty way of sharing with others. If he found pleasure in my unhappiness, he supposed others would too! Meantime, he got sympathy. |
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