md5417's commentsComments On: EverythingArticles Blogs Journals Photos created by: Everyonemd5417 Dealing with a Narcissistic Family Member - Blog Entry08 Sep 2008 08:23 AM How do you help a 10 year old child deal with their custodial, narcisistic parent without crossing the boundary of bad parenting? It's such a fine line and there are state statutes (Georgia) which define what you are and are not allowed to say to a child about the other parent. I see my daughter exhibiting many symptoms of a child of narcisistic parents - acting withdrawn, lack of action with homework or chores unless given direct supervision, purposely witholding school assignments in an effort to have some control over their environment...it goes on... Narcissism-Symptoms and Treatment (1) - Blog Entry08 Sep 2008 05:54 AM Hello, I have an ex-wife whom has admited to having been diagnosed with NPD in the past. About four years ago when our daughter (whom lives with her) came to me and my current wife and told us about abuse in the home, I launched a two year and multi-thousand dollar court campaign to get custody. The battle ended up in only a partial victory with myself receiving more visitation time (the less time with her mother, the better off she is) and with my court complaint of both mental and physical abuse being dismissed by a Guardian Ad Litem as well as the GAL-appointed therapist. My daughter later admited that her mother instructing her to lie to both parties and bolster her mother as the actual victim but, once it's too late...it's too late. I have discovered over the past years that my ex-wife has summarily suaded all of my daughters teachers against sharing any details of her shcool or behavioral issues with me unless I demanded it. I've also discovered that she has painted a rather colorful picture of myself and made me out to be a villain to people with whom I consider allies in raising my daughter - family friends, therapists, school administrators, sports coaches, etc. I am considering going back to court given the new stories my wife and I hear coming from my daughter's other home. I'm not so naive that I take every word my 10 year old daughter brings me as absolute truth - especially with the intimidation and gas-lighting that has molded her view of reality. I am hearing things that would make sense though given my personal knowledge of my ex-wife's disorder, even if the info came from a different source. I've also been able to corroborate some of the stories with sources outside of our circle. Does anyone know of any literature either web or printed that explains how to defeat the narcisist in court, how to expose them, court precedence, etc. I have hopes that my daughter is still at an age where therapy will help her and I need to move fast. |
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