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Care of African American Children in Transracial Adoptions: When You need a Stylist - Blog Entry

04 Feb 2007 02:17 PM

ok i will look for the oil, I think it maybe that it looks so dry. Do we need to put oil/conditioner on the boys hair daily?

Bad Parents Have Legal Rights - Blog Entry

04 Feb 2007 09:53 AM

I am a little nervous...i found out friday that there is a court date on 2/21 to work on the TPR for our boys...is it normal to feel nauseous about a court date...we will not be there, it is in another part of the state...the judge stopped all visits with bmom on 1/18 due to the damage it was causing the boys...so I am praying that the TPR process continues...it took a year to get the visits stopped...does any of that make sense

Care of African American Children in Transracial Adoptions: When You need a Stylist - Blog Entry

04 Feb 2007 09:50 AM

Our boys are mixed race, and we are trying to figure out how to keep their hair from looking fuzzy, if that makes sense...what I am reading is not making much sense...we do use a combo shampoo/conditioner on their hair as well as just for me 2 in 1 detangler conditioner, do we need to put something else on their hair..they both have loose curls...reading your blogs I am trying to figure out how to not damage their hair...

When Foster Families Adopt - Blog Entry

25 Jan 2007 10:02 PM

We got word today that we can pick up our boys, who we will foster to adopt which is pretty much the norm in our state, although we do know that barring some unforeseen wierdness that we will adopt them, and God willing their younger brother, when we decided to adopt we chose the foster to adopt route...so as Ed would say and I hope Ed you don't mind me stealing your phrase, tomorrow is our boys Gotcha Day!!!!!!

And we are in prayer that soon the youngest who at this time is in a theraputic placement will join us so the boys will be restored....

Adoptive Parenting Traits, Part 6 - Blog Entry

21 Jan 2007 07:12 AM

I was struck by your staying power comment...I think that is so true...as I stated before I was adopted, my adoption was a kinship one, my Bmom and Amom are sisters who shall we say do not really like each other, that is putting it mildly, anyway I remember turning around 10 and began to look just like my bmom, who I did not know was my bmom, but at that time my Amom could no longer love me because I reminded her of bmom, and the attitude became you will be just like her, not stated implicitedly but implied in away that even my 10 year old mind knew there was something wrong with me...So yes staying power is so important when we adopt, which btw is getting ready to happen for my dh and I..but that is another story...

Ed I love the staying power line because it is so necessary.

Adoptive Parenting Traits, Part 5 - Blog Entry

19 Jan 2007 07:13 AM

Ed I remember wondering the same thing when I was younger about my own adoption...who had the power to make such a life changing decision about my life to take me from one family and give me to another....so it is normal for kids to think those things...

What i find so awesome is that your children are able to verbalize that to you...for me my adoption was a huge shameful secret...while I knew I was adopted I was not allowed to tell anyone...

So you are doing an awesome job...