melodyes_song's commentsComments On: Everything Articles Blogs Journals Photos created by: Everyonemelodyes_song What Almost Every Mother Knows05 Mar 2007 03:24 PM Ed thanks for the laugh...my dh who is staying at home with our boys while I am tackling the corporate world is doing an awesome job but he has incidences like this throughout the day and I try really hard not to laugh...he also calls me and says we are going to do guy things.... Social Workers: A Day in Their Shoes05 Mar 2007 03:20 PM Ed your blogs are always wonderful...our boys SW is incredible, she has such a heart and our boys are not, nor have they ever been a number to her or her supervisor, for that I am so thankful. And since the boys now live with us on the other side of the state she drives here once a month just to see them, she misses them...On the other hand the county we live in while we do not deal with them I know some who do and they are constantly frustrated by the lack of response but I also know we live in a poorer county thus there are virtually no funds to meet the needs of the numerous children in this county. I do not believe I could ever be a social worker since as you stated they must make decisions that are life and death and their is generally no one standing there thanking them for their efforts either. Proposed Foster Care Reform in Texas25 Feb 2007 08:55 AM I think the disconnect comes sometimes when the system must repeatedly protect the bparents rights even to the detriment of the children. In our classes to become licensed we were repeatedly told that the goal is always reunification. While as a child of adoption myself I can respect that reunification is important, I do think that there are many times and cases when reunification should be taken off of the table. It took from June 05 to the end of this month to get the TPR granted in our boys case, their were literally 20 continuances...that is a tremendously long time in the life of a 6, 4, and 2 yr old their ages now. I think that the system forgets that a day, a week, a month, is a huge chunk of a child's life. It is sad to watch kids languish in a system that forgets they are children. It was brought up that full disclosure is not given to foster or adoptive parents in many cases (btw it was in our case) which can and does lead to failure and multiple placements, and when a child/ren are placed without disclosure it leaves foster parents feeling like failures and wanting to give up. Proposed Foster Care Reform in Texas22 Feb 2007 09:35 AM Ed I agree there are not enough families to foster, however at least it my state of NC it is not the willingness that is lacking it is the fact that it takes so long that people give up...for example, my husband and I have some very good friends that want to foster and it took them almost a year to get licensed by our county. They were persistent enough to not give up, however many families who geniuneily want to help are made to wait months and months to get licensed because there are not enough licensing workers. Just Like Dad21 Feb 2007 06:46 PM Ed that story especially the lack of protection the first 4 years is very similar to our DS age 6, he had to be the protector, and he struggles believing my dh and I will protect him, it is encouraging to see that Matthew is growing in that area and is seeing the love and protection first hand...thanks for all you share!!! A Change For Good08 Feb 2007 07:47 PM Ed how awesome is it to see how ours lives can change...redemption and forgivness are wonderful...I love your blogs!!!!! Dealing With The Public Perception08 Feb 2007 07:27 PM We live in a rural part of NC and get some of the same looks, while it should not suprise me it does...my birth kids are Native american and so I should be used to the sideways looks but am still not...although like you Ed I am glad I have learned to not respond like I did when I was 20 or so. Care of African American Children in Transracial Adoptions: When You need a Stylist04 Feb 2007 08:29 PM Thanks Andrea...the skin blogs help bunches too. Bad Parents Have Legal Rights04 Feb 2007 08:27 PM Ed we are so blessed to be covered in prayer by our agency, CM, church, etc...and we never stop praying God's peace, plan and healing for our boys and that God would continue to graft us into a family... Bad Parents Have Legal Rights04 Feb 2007 02:22 PM Ed I wish we could go, unfortunately the boys county is over 300 miles away and at the moment the thought of going back up there makes the boys we feel we are going to leave them, and we already have to take them back up on Tue. because they have a closure session on Wed. It is so much on them...I know the boy's GALs are going and they, the SW, the CM and everyone else are thrilled with how things are going for the boys now that they are home...even though it has only been a little over a week since we brought them home they just belong if that makes sense. 1 2 |
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