missingTrixie's commentsComments On: EverythingArticles Blogs Journals Photos created by: EveryonemissingTrixie You Know Your Kid is the BOSS When... - Blog Entry30 Jul 2006 07:11 PM My advice to my daughter was to do what you said and have a private (non-confrontational) conversation with her brother about the situation. That way I was not in the middle of it. He did say he had no control AT ALL in the matter. My daughter and I will probably not be allowed any contact with those children now, as she holds the kids hostage when she is angry or disagrees with anyone in the family. I did try to talk to the child when she bullied, or was being mean...in a nice way, not a mean way, and her response is shocking like she is entitled to treat others that way. Her parents have moved her out of the last school because she has lost her friends because of her actions (you hit that one on the nose), and her mom will NOT stand for teachers to discipline her, even if there is a no bullying rule. Yes, she may appear to have confidence on the outside, but she is a little over weight like her mom, and my other grandchild is very thin, and a beauty ( the over weight one is adorable as well), but I think because of comments she makes to the other child like "you are fat and I'm not"...makes me wonder if her being overweight is causing her to feel inadequate or have low self-esteem. I hope this is addressed for the childs sake. They are both my grandchildren, and I agree that grandparents should not interfere, but I left out one crucial fact about the mom in this case. She has prescribed meds like one type of xanaz (different milligram), for one thing, another dose for another thing, a pill for not being able to sleep, one for anxiety, then she goes out with my daughter one night, is driving, proceeds to get drunk and pop the pills while getting drunk, my daughter has to tell her stop that's unsafe, my sober daughter drived her car and her home safely. So I am concerned about safety issues for her as well as the 2 little girls, but I have NOT said a word to her about it. Right? Or wrong? Thanks for your response, I really appreciated it, good points! Jane The Bully Next Door - Blog Entry30 Jul 2006 06:56 AM Dear Theresa, I totally understand your bully next door issue! I own rentals, and my daughter and her family live in one, then next door my son and his family live in that one. My son has a 7 year old daughter that is a bully to my daughters 7 year old girl. My sons wife will not allow my son to discipline her, nor will she allow child to apologize when she knows she is wrong. My son says he has no control at all, cannot say anything, as his life would be awful, wife would leave him. I know as grandma I should not get involved at all, but last week I babysat all of their children (4), while they went out for an overnight trip (the 4 parents). While I had the kids the bullying child was behaving very badly. Bullying and making other child cry. The mom says when she was a child all kids had to do what SHE said, and that she was bossy too. WAS? Still is. She states that she is raising her child not to be pushed around or walked on by others, but allows her child to do just that to others. So...I voiced my concern because it has now ruined relationship between my son and my daughter. As a matter of fact, daught-in-law forced son to move them all out, even though he didn't want to move. Example of how controlling daughtet-in-law is...giving away free kittens, however new owners must keep names SHE has chosen for kittens or she is very angry! Already happened with one kitten and new owner! Any advise for me? Please respond to dfcatfish@yahoo.com You Know Your Kid is the BOSS When... - Blog Entry30 Jul 2006 06:00 AM I have a 7 year old grandaughter, and SHE runs the household, not her mom, or my son. Mom will NOT allow him to discipline her at all. The child does what she wants, when she wants, no matter what. Also she is very mean and pushy and bossy and makes other grankids cry, which upsets me a lot, but when the child wants to apologize to the other one, her mom says and I quiote "you are not going to apologize!" WHAT??????!!!!! Her mom says when she was a little girl she was also bossy, and when they played, the other kids had to do it HER way (her dad was not allowed to discipline her as a kid, her moms rules!). She says she wants this child to NOT be pushed around or stepped on by others through her life, however...it's her child that is treating others this way. It has caused a HUGE family dispute, as parents of other kids have had enough of their kids being treated that way, and the mom allowing it. ADVISE? HELP! Jane dfcatfish@yahoo.com |
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