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Dealing with a Narcissistic Family Member - Blog Entry

19 Mar 2008 05:03 PM

I 'm hoping this blog is still active because I have just recently come to understand what it means to have a have a NPD sibling. What I am struggling with most is the realization of how he sees the world in such a distored way, yet believes it to be reality. This in itself causes me to be hopeless b/c now I realize there is no way to establish a common ground from which to work. My mother and I have been his victim for all of my life, but he had respect for my Dad. My shock came after my mother's dealth, as I watched him immediately turn on my Dad. Suddenly, he saw my Dad as a doddering old demented fool. I came to realize that his distortion of my Dad is really no different than the distored way he saw me as well as my mother. All of this sickens me, because it is so ugly and so damaging. The only person who was saved from this was our grandmother and that was because she believed he was perfect. I feel like my life has been turned completely upside down and I come to realize just who my life was dominated by. And what a waste. I use to view him as "Goliath" b/c he intimated by anger, but now I see him as the wizard of oz.