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Things to Discuss Before the Wedding - Blog Entry

06 Feb 2009 07:38 PM

hi eva, i think we have the same problem but the only difference is that my boyfriend told me he will fight for our relationship although at first he told me he will grant his familys wish for him to marry a muslim woman an arranged marriage. When he asked me about this, i told him i don tlike the idea of him marrying another girl and then file a divorce after that. I told him to think about it, coz if he will pursue with that he will goin to loose me although i know we love each other alot. But i just cant accept the fact that he will be marrying another girl. I told him, if he really loves me, he will fight for our relationship as for me also as much as possible my family doesnt allow me to marry a muslim but i fight for our relationship and now they accepted it coz they know i will be happy with my decision.

Just an opinion from me, but still its up to u to decide what would b egood for u and your relationship. But for me, if a guy really loves me, he would fight for me no matter what. Religion has nothing to do with this. Im just viewing things depends on the situation. And i know it would be unfair for me if my husband-to-be will goin to marry another girl just only because somebody wants to. Im not saying he doesnt need to follow his parents, he can be obedient to them but private life is already a different thing. For me, ilove my family and i do respect them, but my personal life is already a private thing for me. They can advice me, but they cant choose whoever i want to marry coz i will be the one whom will be living with that person. I know later on, they will understand my decision and will accept my happiness.

Islam and the Non-Muslim Wife - Blog Entry

06 Feb 2009 06:47 PM

hi, im new in here and ive just signed up on this site a moment ago. Im really searchin the net now coz im really confused with my relationship now to my muslim boyfriend, and im so glad ive found this site..im 24, a christian and a filipina, and ive got a son with my previous husband whose a christian also but we seperated already and now i have a boyfriend whose from pakistan and a muslim and same with my age. Hes quite devoted to his religion and views in life and me too im quite devoted as a christian, my family raised me in a christian way. Im not saying im really really devoted, just the normal one. He told me religion is not an issue between us, and that i can still go to church anytime and he can go to mosque, but if ever we will be havin kids it will be automatically become muslim but if i dont want our kids to become muslim it would be better for us not to have one and we will just consider my son as our own. My boyfriend is askin me already to marry him. I know i love him no doubt on that and i know he loves me too. He told me im his first girlfriend, i told him everything about me and he accepted me for what i am. He told me his family is against our relationship, and they want him to marry a muslim girl whose from their own community. He told me he cant coz he loves me a lot and he cant live without me and that he cant be far away from me. He asked me if i want him to marry another girl just for the sake of his family and divorce that woman after that, i told him i cant be with him thinking he got another woman aside from me and he married that woman before me. He left pakistan and hes in UAE now, he told me he left pakistan for a while just to run away from that situation. He left his own company and accepted a job which offered to him by a famous company in UAE. I do belive him and i trust him whatever he says, but sometimes i dont understand myself why i feel scared and having a doubt sometimes with our situation. I sometimes think he married that girl before leaving pakistan. And now he told me hes on training and we dont have any communication for 2weeks already coz phone and net are not allowed in the training base..please help me, i need your advice, should i trust him really? My other friends and relatives are telling me that muslim are different and that they want their wives to follow whatever they want, and that theyre only good in the beggining but soon u can see their true behavior, im sorry for that i just want to tell everything coz im really confused now, and Im sorry i dont know anything about muslim guys how they handle relationship. I dont want to be in pain again, ilove him alot. Is it possible that he will follow his familys will than his own will of marrying me soon? Please help me..