mommijun's commentsComments On: EverythingArticles Blogs Journals Photos created by: Everyonemommijun Coping with an Argumentative Child - Blog Entry23 Jan 2008 05:45 PM I can deal with my 14 yr old son who loves to argue- most of the time. Sometimes when he's arguing for fun and it's not fun for me I have to just walk away to keep myself from losing it! But every year he gets a couple of teachers who cannot deal with him, who lock horns with him and call him disrespectful and in general have an awful time with him. And I think in doing so they lose his respect as well, which makes him even less likely to act the way they'd like. I had to tell his 4th grade teacher that she was the teacher and she could stop the arguing by refusing to argue back! Any tips or thoughts on how to help others cope with a kid who loves to argue? Sometimes the Best Action is NO Action - Blog Entry17 Dec 2007 08:32 PM This is so hard, staying out. At this very moment my daughter, a HS sr, is on the phone in the next room, venting about an incident she had with a teacher at school. I have to fight like crazy not to step in and stick up for her. I want to meet with the teacher, especially since I do think the teacher's in the wrong. But my daughter is a HS sr, and people are going to do her wrong in her life and she needs to be able to deal with it, and pull others in (like me) when she needs to. She hasn't asked for my help, so I will rein myself in and do nothing. Until she asks, that is :) Before Choosing A College Major... - Blog Entry17 Dec 2007 08:26 PM Instead of asking our kids what they want to 'be' we should be asking them what job they'd like to try first. Statistically they are going to have 3+ careers during their working lifetime. Not jobs- careers. I got a BA in English in 1988 and I'm in distance ed now, something that certainly didn't exist in 1988! And the same is going to happen to them. I'm asking my daughter, who's off to college in the fall, what she wants to start with. There's no telling how she'll branch off from her starting point and where she'll end up. It is About WHO They Are, Not WHAT They Do - Blog Entry17 Dec 2007 08:17 PM It's so easy to buy into the idea that accomplishments - or lack thereof- make the person. Thanks for the reminding me that's not true, and for encouraging me to celebrate the person my son is... caring, sensitive, loyal, honest regardless of level of accomplishment. You Don't Always Have to "Win" - Blog Entry08 Nov 2007 08:17 PM it is fun... my teens and I discuss topics like homelessness, minimum wage and sexual orientation. But my son likes to argue for the sake of arguing! What do you do with THAT kid? Sure, I want them to grow up to be independent thinkers, but sometimes I (and his teachers) just want him to take what we say just because. And of course he doesn't. I think I'll start drinking after work ;) How's your senior's last year in HS? My daughter's kinda getting senioritis, but I'm enjoying driving around looking at colleges with her. I fugure I won't get much of her time pretty soon so I'm taking as much as I can now. |
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