Momoftwoinoc's comments

Your Child Still Has Two Parents - Blog Entry

13 Aug 2007 09:17 PM

Do you have any recommendations for me? I am the visitng parent in the relationship with the time between us about a 75/25 split. I see my responsibility in the raising of our children. I agree that my children have two parents, who are equally important in their lives, regardless of how I might feel about the ex or the ex might feel about me.

My issue is the ex doesn't see it this way. I have tried to talk to him, email him, and text him about activities for the children. I have asked him to let me know where the dance classes are, when doctor appointments are, and so on, but he refuses to provide me this information. I realize he has his life and I have mine, but when it comes to the children I want us both to participate in their activities. I don't know how to talk to him about this to help him understand the importance of both of us being in their lives. Any thoughts?

Is Sole or Joint Custody Better - Blog Entry

13 Aug 2007 09:12 PM

This article was posted a long time ago, so I don't know if you will even be able to see my comments or get a chance to respond. My thoughts on this article are intense, as I find myself struggling with this very issue. My situation is this - when I was married, the traditional roles in our home were reversed. Meaning I was the breadwinner (working 60+ hours per week) and their father was the home maker (though did work part time). My children, now ages 4 and 2, have a better emotional bond with their father. I am struggling right now because they don't understand all the back and forth between us. We share joint custody, with parenting time being a 60/40 split in his favor. I am considering moving this to a 75/25 split. I don't want my children to think for one second I didn't want them, but I cannot bear the uncertainty and sadness in my children. Every night she is with me, my four year old is asking me where she will be sleeping, and who will be taking care of her when she wakes up. It breaks my heart. How do I know the decision I make to give the time up with them is the right decision?