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May 26, 2006 at 10:30 am #121856
Tracey with 6
Hi I’m Tracey I am the happy mum to 6 children and openly ttc number 7 ,what I want to know is how do you deal with nasty comments? Heaven knows I get enough of them! How do you ladies respond ,or do you just let it go?May 26, 2006 at 8:05 pm #504407
I haven’t had many. People tend to try to be funny and don’t realise how hurtful they are being. SoI tend to get in there first. When I started telling a few people about expecting this one I went it with “Yes we do own a T,V” and “Yes we have worked whats causing them, Thankyou”May 27, 2006 at 6:30 pm #504702
i get em alot from old ladies especially after i pick the kids up and hafta run to walmart or the grocery store, i usually have all 4 of mine and usually have either my brothers or my sisters kid because they needed me to watch them for the day and they will all be trailling around with me like im the mamma duck and they are the ducklings and if the old ladies come out of an isle and i stop everyone so they can go they look at me and say…….all they allllll your children miss?…..and i say nah…..all but 1 haha they say oh my bless you…..or……arent you too young to have all those children…and then i tend to get nasty and say, well my husband is a marine fightin for your freedom and this is what happens everytime he goes off to protect you all …..i add another to my family…. or if they keep pushing…i end up say…yeah i am young..but good thing im their mother and taking care of them and not you huh? and walk away……i just get tired of it……i mean really? who are they to judge because someone has a hand full of kids? were not taking food from their plates or money from their pockets…..get over itMay 28, 2006 at 12:06 am #504743
I am having baby #4 and so people are very open about saying that is alot of kids. FIrst off, its my business on how many children I have. I’m taking care of them, not them, so with the rude comments, I tell them how it is. If you want seven children, then God Bless you and no one has the right to judge you. People really need to just mind their own business. I wish you and your family the best.May 28, 2006 at 4:18 am #504917
I come from a big family, when we were kids we wee always asked if our parents owned a tv? I think the amount of children you do or dont chose to have is your business! And thats what i’d tell peopleMay 28, 2006 at 4:21 am #504920
Tracey with 6
Mummy of 4 ,if I’m not being rude ,howq old are you? ,when I had 4 I was 29! and thank you to everyone who replied it means alot to know that I am not alone!May 28, 2006 at 2:04 pm #505018
Im 29 and expecting num 5 and no its not rude if a lady asks another lady her age…..but its rude of a man to do so i look younger tho so does hubby….i guess thats why we get the commentsMay 28, 2006 at 4:10 pm #505028
I saw a program on TLC last week with a family that had 17 children. You know what? If you can afford them, and you love them, then why not? And I think other people make obnoxious comments because they are jealous!May 28, 2006 at 5:14 pm #505036
I’m having # 4 and I get the ‘you’ll have your hands full’ comments (well in fact they say that when they see my two boys ;D) and I also got told to watch TV in the evenings…lol! Why do people think that they are the first to say that…I might start saying (in a really sarcastic voice) OMG that’s so funny…I’ve never heard that before’ ;DMay 29, 2006 at 2:10 am #505226
Tracey with 6
my favourite reply to them is that we are trying to outbreed the idiots in the world! the 17 children was that the duggar’s if so they have 16. I’m on a site with other mum’s of large families and 6 is a small number . It is nice to see others adding to their families though.June 3, 2006 at 2:56 pm #507460
hello ladies with many children-
I am not trying to come off being nasty in any way…I am just wondering how you all came afford so many children and have the time and patience with them all…as you all know I only have matthew and then this one on the way and I am wondering how I am going to do it with the 2 of them…There is tons of love to go around, but making sure I am meeting the needs of both is where I am very concerned. I would just like to know how you all do it…I mean I hear having older children helps b/c they are in their own lives and can help you and and dont need the 24/7 care but I am sure it is still hard. Maybe all of you ladies can give me some advice on how to handle it? what tips do you all have? was it hard adapting you kids to new children in the family? If I am out of place asking these questions please know I am not tring to offend anyone and that I am just curious.. dont answer if you dont want to. I have not problem with people who have large families, if you can afford it and be able to care for each child and still give them individual attention that they all need more power to you all…
NicoleJune 4, 2006 at 2:39 am #507647
Tracey with 6
First off Nicole,I’m not offended, I have to say that having a big family is not for every body ,alot of people can only handle 1 or 2 ,and if that is what tey want all power to them ,I personally had 3 children befor we made the choice to have more than normal,(2.5) children we now have 6 and want more, I feel different children need different amounts of attention , my 2 year old needs more than my 10 year old, and the type of attention is different too. I always make sure I have time with each of them everday and am aware of what is going on in their lives, they may not do all the sport and adance lessons available but they are never short a play mate either. The only thing that is short around here is me time,I don’t have every much ,but that is not an issue for me . I hope this helps you understand some of my life, Good luck with bub number 2 and MAttthew is a really cutie! TRaceyJune 4, 2006 at 9:42 am #507731
When I had Just Jack i couldn’t have imagined what it would be like to have more than 2 maybe, He was such a full time job and he is still my most challenging child, but having the others had made him have to consider others.
I didn’t plan on having so many kids, Jack and Molly were planned then when molly was 6 months old I fell pg by accident and had Luke. Then I separated from my ex and met my now husband he was 24 with no kids and doing a great job of being daddy to my kids that as I knew he wanted kids of his own it seemed a unfair to refuse and I love him so much I wanted to have his kids, We have Josh now and are expecting again in Nov, I think this will be our last but I never say never. My husband works and supports all the kids and my ex doesn’t support his children.June 7, 2006 at 1:16 am #508919
i come from a big family, there are 7 of us, and i can tell ya that out of the 7 of us and the 3 of my DH siblings,none of them are able to take all of our kids at one time, my family tell me all the time they dont know how i have the patience to put up with them…. i always loved being around everyone for the holidays and always said i was going to have a big family,i personally dont think its too challenging for the most part, my oldest is 12 so she pretty much takes care of herself, next is my son daniel hes 8 and he too knows what he wants and does it, next i have victoria she is 6 going on 7 she is the one that always wants my attention, we do cuddle time at night, and have our own play time during the day,and she likes to go shopping with just me and her,then there is McKenzie,shes daddy’s little girl, tho i hafta fall to sleep next to her and im her favorite when she wants something were together all day and while all three of the others are in school so she gets her mommy time, as for how we afford them we make due , DH is in the marine corps, and has a wonderful job as an IT director at the place he works we all not well off by any means but are living comfortbly there are times when we struggle just like everyone else at times, but ya make do…im looking forward to them all getting older and coming to my house for the holidays with their S/o and their children, nothing will make me happier, if money werent an issue id probably be up there with my mom with 7 ;D but i like being able to get them what they want, and like someone else said, only one lacking time is ME ME ME ME but the way i look at it is, ill still be young when my kids are gone and ill be able to enjoy myself then but til them
IM ALL THEIRS !!!!!!July 19, 2006 at 4:45 am #534811
When my older kids and Maria are with my DH and I ,and someone asks if Maria is their child.
Boy look out!
My older kids lovetelling people,
“No she is my sister, and this is my son Jordan, and Maria is Jordan’s auntie,and this is Isabella, who is Maria’s niece, and My Mom is a new mommy and a new Nana!”
LOL you should see the peoples faces!
It’s like they wished they never asked!
Most just walk away shaking their heads! ;D ::)
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