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Complaining to Your Spouse about In-Laws

30 Mar 2008 04:49 PM

My husband and I were married nearly one year ago, and since our wedding, we have been experiencing a new game which we call "the big shut out."

My mother-in-law "forgets" to invite us to Christmas, Easter, family dinners, etc. Prior to Christmas, my husband wouldn't acknowledge that this was really happening. But, we spent Christmas Eve with my family, intending to spend Christmas day with his. We've done this for nearly four years! I guess mother-in-law has decided that, even though she is jewish, we should spend the entire Christmas holiday with her or nothing at all.

We were excluded from all of Christmas activities, and treated like unwelcomed guests when we finally asked if we could bring our gifts over for everyone. My mother-in-law and sister-in-law sat together glaring at me as we opened our gifts. They said we could stay for dinner and my mother-in-law kept making over my sister-in-laws pasty mashed potatoes from the night before. My husband was crushed and we ate quickly, washed our plates and said our good-byes.

Once we were home, I found my husband crying in the shower. It was terrible. I hurt for him so much. Especially since my sister-in-law is his brother's wife. However, I think this was an awakening for him. It happened at Easter, too, and my husband finally confronted his mother - who said she simply "forgot about us."