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Three Ways to Cope with Stress When Pregnant

11 Aug 2006 11:38 PM

Hi all,

Apologize for a need of nickname, I am a husband in dire need of advice on how to communicate with my pregnant wife. Since she got pregnant, which about 7 weeks ago, she increasingly critized me on every words and moves I made. We have been together for 14 years, and it started on wearing me down. Recently, we had a discussion about when my parents can go visit the baby once the baby is born. She told me that she didn't my parents to see the baby until the baby is 2 years old. So I was trying to understand why and negotiate with her, then she told me that it would 1.5 years when my parents will be able to see their grandchild. I told her that it would break my parents heart if I told them that they have to wait 1.5 years. This is only one example of the discussion that we had.

I am in dire need of help because I am at the end of my rope. I felt like I got caught between hard place. I want to be a good father and husband, but at the same time, I felt miserable listening to her criticism. I also understand that she is under a lot of stress, but me too. I am not doing well in my career right now.

Please let me know if you have any advice. I tried to persuade my wife to go for counseling, but she refused it.

As a husband, what should I do?