Neighbor drama

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    JeanLynn81

    Ok, so I never posted anything about the troubles with the next door neighbors. But I think its about time I get my frustrations out. My next door neighbor is a girl thats my age. She has 3 beautiful girls under the age of four. You’d think, “Wow how convenient, since my daughter is around their ages.” BUT they never play together. Why? Her husband is a big bootyhead jerk!

    The last time me and my daughter were over there was about 6 months ago. He came home from work, and began REAMING his wife about how the house was a mess, and did the kids even get out that day, and where is dinner, and called her every name in the book AT THE TOP OF HIS VOICE. Right in front of the neighbors (me) and his young children. I was horrified! I hear yelling alot over there, but never imagined that he talked to his wife that way in front of the kids. Poor thing was just sitting there, saying nothing, close to tears. Classic “battered wife syndrome”. OMG. I felt like I should say something. As meekly as I could muster, I mentioned to her that I was embarassed about his behavior, and that I didn’t think it was ok for the young kids, specifically mine, to be hearing those things. So I was going to leave. Well…this monster of a husband of hers gets in MY FACE and begins to scream at me. I just put my hand in his face and told her I’d see her later, on a day when he would be working or gone. He then goes berserk and tells her if he EVER sees her hanging out with me again, that he’d leave her then and there.

    Hmmm, well since then she’s very meekly told me that she doesn’t want anything to do with me. Ok fine, she can be his slave. I just feel bad for the kids. I NEVER see them leave that house, and am very close to calling child services.

    Early this morning was what did it for me,
    and now I am completely fed up with this guy. He got in my face about my tv being too loud (HELLO? I AM HEARING IMPAIRED-LOOK AT THE BIG HONKIN’ HEARING AIDES IN MY EARS!) But, I just ground my teeth and told him I would move my chair closer to the tv and see if that helps. I was trying anything to avoid a big confrontation with him. He’s a scary guy. Plus my daughter was there. But when I was walking away he reminded me that me and my “ugly kid” were not allowed near his wife and kids. That did it. I took my daughter in the house, handed her to my mom, and headed out to give him a piece of my mind, only to my surprise, he swung at me!

    [URL="http://i67.photobucket.com/albums/h302/JeanLynn81/100_0794.jpg"]My Soon-to-be-shiner[/URL]

    Yes, I pressed charges. :nods:

    #979179

    DivasMomma

    OH MY GOD! YOU POOR THING!

    Im SO glad you pressed charges!!!!! What did the cops say? Did he get arrested?

    I feel so bad for his family :(

    #979180

    DivasMomma

    and PS

    YOUR DAUGHTER IS BEAUTIFUL! Hes the ugly one

    #979187

    Aiden&Alejandros Mommy

    OMGosh Jean!!! I am so glad you pressed charges! I hope that, insert bad word here, gets some time! I am just glad he didn’t do anything to Alyssa. :hug to you Pay no attention to his words…Alyssa is beautiful!

    #979190

    MommaColleen

    :eek: What a jerk. What a big man hitting a woman. I hope he is proud of himself :mad: :mad:

    Good for you pressing charges. Hopefully this will open the door for CPS to do something for the wife/kids. They do not deserve to live like that.
    Oh, and your DD is absolutely a cutie. :nods: :nods: :nods:

    #979193

    MiaCamille

    man what a creep how could he do that…. what did the cops say? you did a good thing by pressing charges good for you….

    #979204

    JeanLynn81

    Oh he got taken to the station. I had to go down and give a statement. All that fun stuff. Not really sure whats going on yet. I’m waiting on a phone call, which kind of sucks because I had some shopping to do!

    I’m not worried about me, but thank you! Really I need to stress this-What I did, was NOT the proper course of action at all!!! I should not have reacted so hotly and ran out there, and endangered myself by doing so.

    And thanks, I do know Alyssa is beautiful! ;)

    #979211

    LovingJesusinAZ

    [quote=JeanLynn81]Oh he got taken to the station. I had to go down and give a statement. All that fun stuff. Not really sure whats going on yet. I’m waiting on a phone call, which kind of sucks because I had some shopping to do!

    I’m not worried about me, but thank you! Really I need to stress this-What I did, was NOT the proper course of action at all!!! I should not have reacted so hotly and ran out there, and endangered myself by doing so.
    And thanks, I do know Alyssa is beautiful! ;) [/quote]

    Just because you ran out there does NOT give him the right to hit you EVER! I am so proud of you that you pressed charges!!! That is a wonderful statement for your daughter (as well as the wife and kids next door) that violence is wrong and needs to be punished! Thankfully Alyssa is too young to know what’s going on, but she’s very foruntate she has a mom who is not willing to play the victim and stand up for what is right!!!!

    (I grew up in a home similar to the one you described, but thankfully my dad never hit us or my mom. Just a lot of yelling/name calling, belittling, etc)

    #979215

    twinzplus3

    YIKES! That’s scary. . .I’d call and call and call whoever you need to as much as you need to. That’s someone who has issues.

    #979235

    erinellakal

    OMG! If he hit you, his neighbor, just imagine what he’s done to him own wife. I hope she can get the help she needs to get out her abusive situation.

    Keep us posted!

    #979270

    mommy2067

    OMG Jean…{{{HUGS}}}} for you and kisses for your eye!!! I agree with everything that has been said already…I hope this is an eye opener of sorts for the wife…although I am sure she has felt his fist before….be safe and be strong…Thinking about you!!!:nods:

    #979296

    mcmama

    OK, so you lost your temper. That doesn’t mean the fists fly. And you did not take a swing at him, but you would have liked to. You wanted to tell him off.

    Now listen here. That baby depends on YOU. And what good does it do her if you are fighting with someone like this? You better look out for yourself.

    Press the charges, and show his wife how a real mom stands up to this sort of thing. But understand, he’s going to get out, and if wifey takes him back, he’s still your neighbor and it will get worse.

    #979303

    DK615617

    [QUOTE=mcmama]
    Press the charges, and show his wife how a real mom stands up to this sort of thing. But understand, he’s going to get out, and if wifey takes him back, he’s still your neighbor and it will get worse.[/QUOTE]
    Janet, has a point. He will get out. That is a scary thought.

    Your baby is a cutie, he sounds like a total jerk. What a miserable excuse for a human.
    I am so sorry this happened, but good for you for pressing charges.

    #979319

    PennySteed

    Jean, I am so glad to hear that you pressed charges. There is a special place down below for people like that. Unfortunately, things are bound to start getting worse around the neighborhood and with your female neighbor. She is suffering from battered wife syndrome, and there is a good chance he is going to take this “arrest” out on her. My good friend is a crisis counselor for abused wives, and many times they return time and again to thier husbands. What I can suggest for you, if you want to get involved, is to get the information for shelters and keep it. Let her know that you have the information if and when she wants it. Second, if he starts getting worse towards you and your family, get a restraining order and fast. Best of luck to all of you.

    #979355

    JeanLynn81

    His wife came over and spoke with me last night. She was absolutely hysterical about it. She’s freaked out because she has 3 kids with him, and doesn’t think she’ll ever find anyone else. It all boils down to her self esteem being too low to get out of it. She gained alot of weight because she has 3 kids in a row without any real recovery time. She thinks thats a problem. I really feel for her, even though she got mad at me for doing it.

    I found out a “witness” put in a statement that I swung first. I imagine it was her. I KNOW it had to be her. Because I didn’t swing first and the only people that I saw witness it was her and my mom.

    Anyways that hurts my case. I did file for a restraining order. I’m not exactly sure how it works, being that he lives right next door (only a thin wall seperation), but apparently it just forbids him from communicating with me or my family in any way.

    DRAMA DRAMA DRAMA! When will it ever end?! Its attracted very strongly to me!

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