Parental Responsibility in Sacramental Preparation

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    BrRichSFO

    I have a couple of questions to think about and maybe start some discussion.

    The Church teaches in her catechetical documents that the parents are a childs primary teachers in matters of Catholic faith and morals. They also say that parents are responsible for the preparation of a child for the reception of the Sacraments.

    How do you feel about the parental responsibility of Sacramental preparation?
    Do you feel that your parish helps or interferes in that responsibility?
    What Sacraments have you or do you plan to instruct and prepare your own children for?

    #376144

    Brownie

    We were just speaking of this at home over the weekend… our little baby will be baptised in two weeks, and our son takes his first Holy Communion later this year. I wish, very much, that there was some sort of class or group meetings in our area, for parents as their children’s sacraments approach. But our priests are overstretched as it is.

    Perhaps I’ll speak up again and try to get a group of parents together for this. I feel very strongly about the role parents play in their children’s spiritual upbringing, and the example they should set. But it’s not always easy without support.

    And, it seems that I’m going to more and more weddings, christenings, etc., where the principals involved haven’t set foot in a church since the last family wedding or funeral… so it seems a bit pointless, but I suppose anything that brings them together in the church is a start.

    #376171

    BrRichSFO

    [quote=Brownie]We were just speaking of this at home over the weekend… our little baby will be baptised in two weeks, and our son takes his first Holy Communion later this year. I wish, very much, that there was some sort of class or group meetings in our area, for parents as their children’s sacraments approach. But our priests are overstretched as it is.

    Perhaps I’ll speak up again and try to get a group of parents together for this. I feel very strongly about the role parents play in their children’s spiritual upbringing, and the example they should set. But it’s not always easy without support.

    And, it seems that I’m going to more and more weddings, christenings, etc., where the principals involved haven’t set foot in a church since the last family wedding or funeral… so it seems a bit pointless, but I suppose anything that brings them together in the church is a start.[/quote]

    Thank you for responding. I do see where a meeting for parents of young children is sometimes difficult because of family and work. To meet in each others homes once or twice a month or at another location getting a babysitter for a few hours. It is true that pastors are streached these days. Usually there are many people who could lead a discussion on the Sacraments or Basics in the parish if the pastor would just ask them.

    #572388

    pattiewrites

    I agree that the parents are primarily responsible. I teach CCD for the Confirmation class and there is only so much I can teach in an hour each week. If they don’t learn anything about their faith at home, it’s much more difficult for us to do it all. We do have parent meetings several times during the year prior to COnfirmation. The parents meet while the kids are in class.

    My oldest two children go to Catholic school. Their faith is part of their lives every day, at home and at school. My oldest made her First Penance and Communion last year. We helped prepare her by going over her lessons at home and helping her practice her questions. Prior to her first confession, we went over the form of confession with her. I played Father and she did her part. This helped her get over being nervous as the day approached. Our youngest is 8 weeks old and will be Baptized on Saturday. Not much preparation and teaching for him yet, but we have been talking a lot about Baptism with the other kids as the day gets closer.

    I do wish we could do more to get the parents involved, but it is difficult. I belong to a small parish with only one priest. He can only do so much, although he is extremely dedicated and works very hard. Also, it is sometimes difficult to get the parents together. Not bashing the parents here; I have four children and I know how hard it is to do it all.

    #574204

    angiegirl67

    Yes, it is a parents responsibility for education in the Church. I have three daughters and I plan on educating all of them in the faith. My eldest made all her sacraments except marriage she is 19. My middle one just started CCD two weeks ago, she will make her First Holy Communion in two years. And my youngest is three and can say the Our Father, Glory Be, Hail Mary and prays at meal time. She also loves to sing the Divine Mercy Chaplet.
    Let’s take this thread one step farther?
    How do you raise your children in the faith of Catholicism? I can tell first how you don’t do it. You will never do it by sitting at home on Sunday and other days of holy obligation. Sending your child to CCD and not walking your faith everyday is not enough. I have heard so many stories of teens going to Confirmation training and not having a clue as to why they were there. Most of them were there because their parents said it was time for Confirmations. If you are brought up in the Church from very early on or from day one it would be very natural for you to make the Sacrament of Confirmation as a teen. You would be expecting it. I have also heard about many dad’s that stay home on Sunday and the mom’s bring the kids to Church. Well in many case’s mom’s get tired to doing that or when the kids are about 6 or 7 the kids start to say,” Why do I have to go to church if dad never goes”. Well now you have a bigger problem. I think in a family everyone should go to Mass together as a family.
    My husband was a Lutheran when I married him. Although he was not an active one. We had many discussions before we were married about how we would raise the children. My first daughter has a different father and had gone through First Holy Communion up to this point. At the time of my second marriag I was not a very active Catholic. We at the time decided that Lutheranism was enough like Catholicism and we would raise them Lutheran. Well that all changed… I will call it Divine intervention of thought. One day I was thinking about how disinterested my husband was about his faith and now we have a newborn baby girl. I basically told him after considerable contemplation I thought it would be best to have our baby girl baptized in the Catholic Church. He did not disagree and so we went on to do just that. I was sitting in a class for adults to be instructed on the baptism process and it struck me in the side of the head like a two by four. ” How are you going to raise this child to be a good active Catholic if you are not even going to Mass yourself. Well, that was the beginning of my true faith journey. It has been the fast tract ever since my daughters baptism. She is six now and I have discovered the meaning of life. It is Christ Jesus. By the way my husband became a Catholic this last Easter Vigil. I was his sponsor in RCIA, the best thing we ever did together as a couple. I learned so much about my faith, things that I didn’t retain as a child or was never taught in the first place. I would not want to be in any other place then Mass with my whole family each and every Sunday and Holy Day of Obligation.
    Children learn by what you say and what we do. If you show that your faith is important to you each and everyday your children will pick up on it and it will be important to them as well.
    ~Peace

    #574210

    pattiewrites

    Angie,
    Your family sounds like mine. My dh was baptized Lutheran as a baby, but never really went to church growing up. When we got married, I told him that our kids would be Catholic and that he would be going to Mass with us. I never wanted to hear my kids say they shouldn’t have to go if Daddy didn’t. He started going when our oldest was a baby. This past Easter, he also converted. The kids were very excited. I agree that faith must be lived in the home for the kids to really embrace it. Our priest talked about this during his homily at our son’s baptism on Saturday. We always attend Mass together on Sundays. The girls go to Catholic school. We attend Mass at school with them on the Holy Days. They like when we come to their school for mass.

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