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Islam and the Non-Muslim Wife - Blog Entry

22 Jun 2009 11:41 AM

Hi, I don't know if anyone still answers on here, but I really need help. I have (or possibly had, we haven't talked yet) a muslim bf from egypt and he is like the sweetest person ever. We were having a great time the other night until I started talking about my parents. I casually mentioned that my parents weren't married when they had me, thinking that he understood that it was extremely common in america which is where I am from. Once I mentioned it, there was a very quick drawback from him. He was sweet about it, however, when I asked him if that changes what he thinks about me and if he might not want to be with me because of it, he answered yes. Then he started talking about how bad his children would feel if they knew and stuff like that. He really hurt me by saying things like this and now I don't know if we'll continue the relationship which really sucks because I know we both truly love each other. When we first met, neither of us had any intention on ending up together. It just happened and everything was great.

The problems that I'm having with comprehending all of this is that 1. If he's going to marry an american girl, chances are it would be the same thing, 2. It really doesn't seem like THAT big of a deal so why is he letting this come between us especially if he loves me as much as he says he does, 3. I feel like he's punishing me for my parents mistake, 4.Who says we even have to tell our kids about it. They will only feel bad about it if we tell them that they should, 5. I know I already said it but it really isn't THAT big of deal.....why is he making it into one? I'm a virgin and I plan on staying that way until I get married. I'm not having kids out of wedlock....shouldn't that be enough for him? I seriously feel like I'm being punished for something that was 100% not my fault. I love him so much, but should I let him go?