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A Marital Nightmare - Blog Entry

09 Sep 2008 01:30 PM

Courtney I must say that I am sorry that you continue to have this dream but it was a very interesting read. My opinion is that you are having this dream because in reality you have a feeling inside you that you are not satisfying Wayne in some way. I believe your dreams are a manifestation of what is in your subconscious. Try to pay attention to how you are feeling about your relationship when you are awake and at those times when you are feeling a little insecure may be when you find yourself having those dreams. At the times when you're not feeling insecure and feel that Wayne is satisfied with you is probably when you're not having the dream.

I could be wrong but that's just my opinion and it's worked for justifying my dreams.

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Yours, Mine and Ours - Having a Baby in a Blended Family pt. 1 - Blog Entry

09 Sep 2008 01:16 PM

My husband and I have recently blended our families but we did date 5 years prior to getting married so the children have had a lot of time to adjust to one another. Yet I do totally understand all those feelings you stated that must be taken into consideration when adding a new child. I must say that we took it a step further and simply asked the children how they would feel about having a new brother or sister. We informed them that we are thinking of trying for another child.

Together we have 5 children the oldest 21 and the youngest 7, all boys so of course we are thinking of trying for a girl. :) The older ones needed to take a little time to think it over where the youngest one was extremely excited. Now they have told us that they would be happy to have a little sister but I did have to remind them that we can't simply say what gender we want and it be granted! :) They looked at us a little funny but said it would still be "cool" with them.

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There's No Shame in Marriage Counseling - Blog Entry

09 Sep 2008 12:59 PM

You are so correct in all that you said. I am so glad to hear that counseling worked for you guys. I was recently married and my intentions were to attend counseling BEFORE the marriage but we didn't quite get around to it but I did tell him that we had to go.

I recommend counseling for every and any one whether married or single because we all have issues and as you stated it's especially hard when you are joining two lives together as one. Whether the people are from broken homes or not we all have our own individual ways of thinking and doing things and then you try to put them together in one pot and think they'll just work. In some cases yes and in most today, not!

I commend you on saving your marriage! That is so wonderful to hear.

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A Specific Prayer Answered - Blog Entry

28 Aug 2008 12:43 PM

I just have to say AMEN!!! God is abundantly wonderful. More than we can ever imagine or dare to dream. He has blessed me so far beyond what I deserve.

Thank you for sharing your blessing. No matter how big or how small we just have to remember to give Him the praise and say THANK YOU!!!

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More Advice Regarding Household Chores - Blog Entry

28 Aug 2008 12:36 PM

I understand completely where you are coming from but my take on it, as with the towel incident, I would have said thank you dear I appreciate it but did you notice the color of this towel? I prefer to keep these blue towels in the other bathroom because they match. Now he can either take it one of two ways. He'll grumble and think next time do it yourself or he may say I didn't think about/notice that.

Seriously I get that we have to pick and choose our battles but sometimes I tend to feel that these men just need to pay more attention. We keep the house nice and organized for a reason and they've been living with us long enough to know how it works. :) Now if it's a new relationship we may need to take it a little easy on the guy until he learns the ropes.

I do have a slight case of OCD so I had to let go of the fact that the men in my house may not always hang the towels evenly on the rack or face all the labels forward in the cubbard so I don't scream about that....anymore but golly gee can we at least color coordinate?!?! :)

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When a Friend Hits on You - Blog Entry

14 Aug 2008 11:54 AM

In a sense I believe like you do Lyn that if the proposition is quickly put down and it is understood that nothing more will happen then there is no need to tell the other person but I think about the perception that can be left out there. So in that aspect I would tell my partner because I want to make sure that other person knows that I have the utmost respect for my partner and he/she needs to have also and are they really a friend if they had the audacity to come on to you.

A Six Year Old's Wisdom - Blog Entry

14 Aug 2008 10:45 AM

I so agree with that. I think we listen to the snake, Satan, because it is so much easier to do the wrong thing. Listening to God and following His will is a task for many because we are flesh and our flesh is sinful so we have to practice going against our fleshly desires and follow the spirit of God who is within us as Christians. Our temptations are only to make us stronger in our faith in God and if we see it that way every time we don't let Satan, the snake, lead us to give in to those temptations it becomes a victory for God and we all love to feel victorious and He, our heavenly father, will bless us beyond what we can imagine. It feel so good to be in His favor.