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Islam and the Non-Muslim Wife - Blog Entry

11 Nov 2006 11:30 PM

I was googling around this evening and came across this article. As a Muslim woman, I must admit, I'm a bit offended. First of all, where in the Quran does it say that only MEN can marry "People of the Book"? Oh, it doesn't! Second of all, why is it Ok for a Muslim man to date a non-muslim girl, have sex with her, enjoy her company and her mind, perhaps tell her he loves her and even propose to her, and then turn around and say, now, if you love me, you're going to have to change! THAT is the type of person you want to run from. That type of person is called a hypocrite. Why would someone who fell in love with you tell you to change the things about you that made him love you in the first place? He's a fickle creature and he should not be allowed to play with your emotions. I have a diverse family, we have men and women who have married people from various backgrounds and they are all happy because they are open minded, educated, well rounded, and intellectually compatible. Those people KNEW what they were getting into and that compromise would be necessary, as it is in all marriages. What makes marriages, where two people are from different backgrounds challenging, is not JUST religious differences. It's cultural differences too. A Pakistani and a Persian, Iraqui, or Egyptian Muslim would have trouble adjusting to each other too.. However, we can not simplify relationships into neat little packages. And, telling people to run from what may be potentially a beautifully fulfilling and happy life is simplistic. Marriage is a comittment that requires two concenting ADULTS, perhaps the problems are with the people who go into something prematurely and immaturely. Just some thoughts..