riveneuphoria's commentsComments On: EverythingArticles Blogs Journals Photos created by: Everyoneriveneuphoria Milk Spoils, Babies Do Not! - Blog Entry27 Apr 2007 05:51 PM I just had my second son and my husband keeps telling me that I am going to spoil him. I don't let him cry, I try to find out what's wrong, and sometimes he just wants to cuddle. I don't think holding him is spoiling him. He spent 9 months inside me and still needs that closeness. I lay him on my chest and he curls himself into a tiny ball, the fetal position, and listens to my heartbeat to go to sleep. Hubby says I have him spoiled because he doesnt like to lay in his bed, he cries. But he is tiny and even though I have him in a travel bed, about the size of a bassinet, I don't think he feels secure enough. It is still a big space. I have found other ways to get him quiet, like letting him curl up in the center of the Boppy pillow. or putting it inside the travel bed. But with being a breastfeeding mom, nothing beats him being with me. I dont think it is possible to spoil an infant. They only cry when they are hungry, need a change, or need comfort. It is a big big world. He is only 1 week and 2 days old. Is Santa Real? - Blog Entry27 Apr 2007 05:39 PM When I was growing up, I was taught to believe in Santa. We would put milk and cookies out. And I would awake to presents, unwrapped, sitting around the Christmas tree. The cookie always had a bite or 2 taken from it and the milk somewhat gone. I eventually learned that Santa was not real. But I didnt say anything. We continued to play the game. I eventually said something, or something was mentioned, and the Santa game ended. I never felt lied to, I enjoyed waking up to all the gifts from Santa. The same thing goes for the Easter bunny. I would awake to find an Easter basket full of goodies. I plan to do this with my children as well. It was something I really enjoyed as a child. I think we continued the game even through middle school. A lot of parents now feel that it is lying to your child, but I never felt that way. I guess it depends on the child too. And how old they are when they find out the truth. I always new the real meaning of Christmas, being a Christian. So to me the religious factors arent a concern either. Babysitting at Six????? - Blog Entry27 Apr 2007 05:30 PM I think it is horrible that school staff asked a 6 year old to 'babysit' a classmate. That could cause you daughter to be bullied, not to mention it is just plan rediculous to have her watch this other child. Shouldnt the teacher watch for the childs bad behavior? If anything the teacher should be asking your daughter to ignore the other child when he misbehaves, and to concentrate on her studies. That would have to put unthinkable stress on your daughter. I thought teachers were suppose to teach children not to tattle, this one seems to be asking her to. Let's Talk About Teenage Pregnancy - Breaking Through Stereotypes - Blog Entry27 Apr 2007 05:01 PM I am a young mother of 2 beautiful boys. Caleb Isaiah turned 2 April 14th, and Jacob Wade wass born April 18th. As a young mother I have gotten use to the looks and comments. It is very obvious that people assume I am just some teen who slept around, scum of the earth. My first child was not planned but I had been with the father 4 years. We were okay with it. We moved in together and I quickly learned that even though I was ready to be a mother, he was not mature enough to be a father, even though he was 20. My newest one was planned. I am married to a wonderful man. I will be 19 this year and he is 24. I have never really had parents, so that made me grow up fast. For me someone older was the answer because he is on my level. Young mothers are becoming more common, especially since I had my first son. Several girls I went to high school with now have babies. Some of them are the sleep around type, but even still, that doesnt mean they cant be a good mother, unless they continue that irresponsible act after they have the child, or during pregnancy even. I have seen it go both ways. I think after people talk to me, they realize their mistake in thinking that I am anything less than a great mom. And I find that concerns, frustrations, ect that I experience are shared by mothers of all ages. I can go to any parenting board and find all the concerns ect that I have had plus more. I hope that one day people will stop steriotyping young parents. Age really doesnt play a factor. Maturity levels do. Let's Talk About Teenage Pregnancy - Breaking the Big News - Blog Entry27 Apr 2007 04:48 PM I had my first son when I was 15. Right before my 16th birthday. I told his father first. I was living with my father and his girlfriend at the time. So next we told her. I figured she would know how my dad would react. She wasnt much help though. So we waited on my dad to get home from work. We kept putting off telling him until his gf came into my room and said "Look I cant take it any longer, either you tell him or I will" So I told the babys father that he should do it. I thought my dad would appreciate him more for being a man. Unfortunately things did not go so well. But my dad didnt hit him, and I seriously thought he would. My Dad told me I had to options, either have an abortion and go about things like nothing happened, never see the babys father again, and maybe get a car for my 16th, or have the baby. But if I were going to have the baby I had to get out. So I left. Now I am 18 and just had my second son. It was planned this time and I am married. After my dad kicked me out I ended up graduating early and have gotten 2 years of premed school. All he did was help me get further faster in life. I moved in with my mom after he kicked me out. I stayed there long enough to graduate early and then moved in with my grandmother to start college. I think I am an awesome mom. Nowadays my dad and I are on good terms. But I was disconnected from that side of the family for a while. In the end, I think you should always tell the babys father first, then your parents. If your parents kick you out like mine did, there are always other options, ways to get through. I decided to be an adult, not take the easy way out with an abortion and I couldnt have it better. Getting Enough Sleep - Blog Entry27 Apr 2007 04:37 PM timezone has commented about a belly bed. I believe that would work. I have never been a person that slept well on my stomach, but that is how I knew I was pregnant the second time, because in the early stages of my first pregnancy when my belly was not yet growning, I enjoyed sleeping on m stomach. I had started sleeping on my tummy before I even knew I was pregnant. And then when I was pregnant the second time, that was the only way I was comfortable. Sleeping on my side just didn't cut it anymore. Ask a Baby Blogger: What Solids Should I Avoid? - Blog Entry27 Apr 2007 04:27 PM Also berries. Berries shouldn't be eaten while breatfeeding. Especially if you have ever had an allergic reaction. My lactation consultant, who is also a pediatrician, has told me to especially avoid strawberries. |
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