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Postpartum depression: Effects on the marriage - Blog Entry

04 Apr 2009 08:54 AM

Please someone help. My wife and I have been married for almost 2 years and three months ago we had a beautiful baby girl. As the three months have passed our marrage has become more difficult. I just figured it was due to the exhaustion of a new and very colicy baby but I'm beggining to believe it's postpartum. My wife has never been the type to express her feelings her mom has told me she's always been like that but now more then ever I feel like there is no way to cheer her up. I'm not working right now so I help with the baby all day as much as possible. I do all the housework and cooking. I'm trying to keep the relationship as stress free as possible. Still my wife has totally withdrawn from me. Never initiaites any kind of affection. Especially when it comes to sex. I'm starting to feel like some kind of pervert always trying to kiss her and see if she's in the mood. I'm terrified that our marriage won't make it. I don't believe in divorce but I'm afraid she does. I'm also naturally insecure and I know it's something I need to work on but her being unfaithful is always on my mind. Like right now for instance she just woke up one day and said she was going back home to see her family and will be gone for almost three weeks. She took the baby and the dog leaving me here alone. I'm struggling fighting these feelings and am lost. Being first time parents is hard enough but I'm trying to see the light at the end of the tunnel I just need help trying to show mfy wife the same light. What can I do to make this work? Thanks for any help.