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Islam and the Non-Muslim Wife - Blog Entry

30 Apr 2008 10:13 AM

Dear poppy123 First of all forgive me my bad english but i think it isnt the most important now. I had pakistani boyfriend too, he was great man and also helped me many times but...it came to point similiar to your problem - mother.We are both muslims but i was married before and have child. Belive me i couldnt understand it, accept it etc but my boyfriend told me one time " I as single person means nothing..name of my family really matters, i have younger syblings they arent married yet and everything wrong what i do or could do will make their life very difficult as people having sharps tongues and can kill you with gossip...if i reject my family they will reject me and literally it means social death for me i dont want that one day somebody will humiliate my wife and kids." I dont know how you will judge those words...some people say - coward, others - immature man who cant take responsibility and sissy boy who affraid his mother . I still asking myself why? But with time came thought that our love has more than body, soul and mind...it has family where belongs to, culture and many not written customs and rules. sometimes its better to wait till all this "fizzy" feelings go and assess situation again. I recommend one book "Woman in Islam"..it helps find many answers and probably gives you an idea about daily life and rules. check please could you really say that you can fit in?