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Dealing with a Narcissistic Mother - Blog Entry

04 Sep 2007 04:17 PM

I didn't realize that there was anything abnormal about both of my parents until I worked up the courage to tell them that I deserve to be treated like an adult, not a child. My Father is an alcoholic and my Mother is most definitely an undiagnosed NPD. So far, I have not seen either of them since January but, I keep getting nasty emails from my Mother. I have decided that a total cutoff is the only way to save my sanity. It makes me so rageful and sad to know that they are going to miss out on so many things simply because of their "illnesses." I can't help but feel hatred toward both of them. My whole life, I was afraid of stepping out of line; of displeasing them. I would love to get counseling for this but, I work full time and I go to school full time. The counselor that I was seeing was vague and sat there the entire 3 months just shaking his head and saying, "Oh, you poor thing." I have found that books like, "Emotional Blackmail" and "Toxic Parents" have helped. Both of those books describe my parents to a "T." I don't know what I would've done without them.