sammydg04's comments

More Advice Regarding Household Chores

29 Aug 2008 02:10 AM

Hahaha! I couldn't help but laugh aloud as I read this post. My husband is color blind!!!!! If he brought me a blue towel, and I asked him to go back for a green, he would look me in the eye and ask, "What color is this? It isn't green?" with the shock and innocence of a child.

Anyway, put it in perspective. At least, if you do specify the color towl you want, you are guaranteed to get that color!

To Love and To Cherish: Not To Be In Love and To Court

29 Aug 2008 02:05 AM

I think I might comment with a question.

My husband and I have only been married for three months. Yes, I love him. Yes, I am still very much in love with him. As one of the other ladies stated, I find myself missing him when he is only gone to work for the day, watching the clock to see how long till he comes home, and the world still disappears when his arms are around me.

That being said, I have found myself struggling lately with the subject that you only touched on: the subject of finding that even if you don't like a person all the time, you can still love them. I know this is possible in family relationships, but I never thought I would find myself loving my husband but not really liking him all the time.

It's not a huge issue, certainly not one that pops up every day. Just occasionally, I will feel a pang at a comment he makes towards a TV show. More than wishing that he didn't say whatever it was he said, I find myself knowing that he believes it deep down and wishing that were not true. I remind myself quickly of all the things that I do like and love about him, but in those moments I am struck that I could love a person whose opinions I sometimes so strongly dislike!

None of that was a question. My question is whether or not this is ok, what I can do to minimize this, etc.

Three Misconceptions that Can Affect Your Marriage

29 Aug 2008 01:55 AM

I think I may disagree with your first point. You may say that I am young and inexperienced, and that is find if that is your opinion.

I still maintain that I respectfully disagree with your first point. (The other two are spot-on!). I do believe that love conquers all. Maybe not the emotional first six months "in love" that you get when you are 16; however there is no reason that deep, true, commited, mature love should not be able to get through anything.

While I may have sentenced myself to a lifetime of working at my marriage by promising that the man I chose to marry would be my husband until the end, I can't help but believe it's true. I would have agreed with you had you said "Love can conquer all if two people work hard enough".

Immature love can not conquer all, but I believe the Bible verse that my cousin read at my wedding: "Love never fails". that is, of course, speaking of mature love, committed love, and love between two people who are willing to work at it.

Marriage is a Commitment

29 Aug 2008 01:40 AM

I made the mistake of living with my husband before we were married (however unofficially...as if that matters). At the time it seemed harmless, and it did feel wonderful to fall asleep next to him and have the intimacy of living under the same roof. As soon as we were married, though, I knew that I had cheapened the experience for myself. Falling asleep next to him on our wedding night felt like normal routine.

Now we have been married only three months. We still love each other, of course, but I don't see us having the passion that other newlywed couples around us seem to have. I honestly see two sides of it. We feel more comfortable together (no matter the circumstance) have developed a deeper friendship and trust for one another. Other newlywed couples have the advantage of having more novelty, passion, and excitement in their new marriage.

I know that we won't become a statistic because I made a commitment to myself a long time ago that I would never divorce. it is interesting to note the differences, though. (Sorry this is so long)

Start Out Right

29 Aug 2008 12:57 AM

As my husband's aunt told me when we announced our engagement, "Don't start doing anything for him now that you're not prepared to do for the rest of your life".