shawspear's comments

Teen Pregnancy on the Rise

28 Jul 2009 08:44 AM

No. I don't think teenage parents are just as good as older parents. Sorry little lady. Not to mention immature guys being dads. Jesus, lots of old dads are crummy and they're suppose to be wise. Much better if you're older before having children.

What Would You Do for Love?

28 Jul 2009 06:31 AM

But it's not a true story, in fact just the opposite of the true story that inspired the author to write this one. And I can't ignore the class thing: in reality, women rarely marry class down; it's the men that do that. Personally for me, it would be a much more powerful story worth reading if it were based on a true one.

Choosing Single Motherhood: The Thinking Woman's Guide

22 Jul 2009 06:13 AM

Hi. I agree with the comment above: I mean, you just don't like us or just can't find a good enough one? I mean guys. I think most people would agree IF both mom and dad have a healthy relationship, then having both is better than just one right? I just can't imagine a women not wanting her child to have a dad unless she's had some really bad experiences with men or has become disappointed with men in general. Yeah, I know finding a good man is hard to do; lots of guys are crummy. Tough for women I know. Sad I think. I really feel they'd rather a husband but circumstances force them to be single.

Are Your Kids a Target for Abductors?

19 Jul 2009 07:30 AM

Only dad should be the one, at a very young age: First explain to her about kidnappers and then tell her to walk on the sidewalk and you'll drive your car and try to act like an abductor. She'll be comfortable with it but only if it's her dad and they are close: "little girl I have some candy in the car, you want some?" tell her. She'll be strong, raise her nose up and shout, "NO". "Little girl I lost my dog can you help me find it" tell her. She'll shout, "I'll screeeam!". "Little girl I have some money to give you". She'll then play with you, walk up to the car and say "well how much do you have?". You'll of course tell her "Nooooooooo!". You'll both laugh :). Or something like that dad.

The Importance of Dad's in Raising Teen Girls

08 Jul 2009 03:21 PM

. . . dad means a lot to her, that is if he loves her. Just be there for her, stay out of her way unless she needs you, and do pretty much whatever she asks you to do. And look at her that way, like she is the most precious thing you will ever have in this world. She'll notice, her friends will notice, "your dad loves you very much", her friends will tell her. "We can tell", they'll say. She'll know. That will strengthen her, and she'll want your approval and hopefully live well to obtain it. Her heart is your secret weapon. Take care of it and use it wisely to teach her to be strong and sharp about the world. I know sometimes nothing you do works.Try though. She is after all your little jewel.

I Do Not Want To Know

05 Jul 2009 07:06 AM

. . . I don't blame you. Once my daughter came in and said, "my car won't start". I said, "did you check the battery". She folded her hands and gave me that look and said, "dad, I just wanna' drive it and go see my friends".

I think there is a wonderfully marvelous synergy between man and woman: her strength supports his weaknesses; his, hers . . . when it works that is. Marriage is in a terrible crisis these days; both the man and woman expect far too much of each other, and the media feeds the frenzy. I don't know what's to be done about it either.

yeah, you don't need to know about the toilet or door, window, broken faucet but you also don't want to know he's cheating on you, is addicted to internet porn, is overly obsessed and possessive of you, abusive to you, and can't hold down a job to boot! Yeah, being single is hard for a woman, man too. Sometimes though it's nice to go to a quiet home even though you have to shake the toilet handle to stop it from running. :)

Avoiding obesity in the teen years

03 Jul 2009 09:40 AM

. . . figured you wouldn't like it . . .

I realize it's a problem for both; I'm just talking about the girls that's all. I believe if the problem were presented appropriately, she would grow up smart enough to resist both extremes. The other way is a subject I feel strongly about and believe if mom and dad took more interest in the matter, we'd have less problems with it particularly girls but dad, he's the key with that one but try getting him to do something about it . . . just exactly what are "wintergirls" dad?

Avoiding obesity in the teen years

03 Jul 2009 06:48 AM

. . . I say risk it. It's a big risk I know: telling her about fat. And I mean starting at a very young age. Many though would harshly disapprove of my suggestion. You may turn her the other way and cause her to become obsessed with being thin. That's the risk. But so too is being overweight. Can you see it in their faces? The fat ones I mean. I can. Being overweight is devastating to a young girl and a young woman although they'll hide their true feelings about it. No dad wants to see his little girl hurt and being fat in American culture causes immense hurt to a woman. Yeah, I'd risk it alright, at a very young age too but I'd do my best to present it in a way that keeps her from going the other way.

Teens and Self Esteem

28 Jun 2009 08:47 AM

I'd be devastated if my teen daughter told me she was interested in plastic surgery, yeah, a boob job, and I'd probably fall into a deep, deep depression blaming myself for not satisfactorily teaching her about good health and fitness to get a pretty decent body without it. That's the problem I think: they're not taught, rather just left to the whims of the media to seduce, saturate, mislead, betray, and trap them into thinking they need some stupid surgery which inserts plastic into their breasts to make them more "attractive". I don't want another daughter cus' I don't want to go through the heartbreak of watching another one grow up!

Would You Pay Your Teen NOT to Get Pregnant?

28 Jun 2009 08:24 AM

. . . ugh . . . at least $10,000 if I thought it would work but we know it won't don't we. Want to keep her from gettin' pregnant? Get to her while you can still rock her to sleep and teach her all about the perils of girl-world. You do know all about that don't you dad? Oh yeah, I forgot, that game's on today is it? Mom can do it? Not the same. You hold the key dad if only you knew how to use it but you must get to her before . . . I don't know exactly, 9 maybe, 10, 11, 12, when she hits 13, forget it. You've lost her by that time and you aren't getting a word in edgewise, but 6, 5, 7, 8, yeah you can do some real good then.