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The experience of losing a parent - Blog Entry

12 Oct 2008 02:01 PM

I also lost my mum in feb 07 to cancer. although we knew it was spreading she had a brain haemorrhage suddenly. Although my dad is still alive i feel like an orphan as he is now married to my mums cousin with whom he was having an affair while my mum was alive and battling her illness. I have had depression for a number of years but since losing my mum, and following loads of arguments with my dad cos i cant accept this woman into my home, I have gone downhill. I feel I cant grieve properly for my mum I am constantly told to 'snap out of it' 'forget him and get on with your life' and thats from my gp and psycologist as well as those I used to confide in. I know what I should do but I dont feel safe unless I am home. I keep it all to myself now and avoid going anywhere in case i see someone i know. I am an only child. I never had the 'talk' with my mum as she didnt want to talk about dying.