Tag Archives: Victim

Does “Bully Education” Really Work?

Schools all across the country are making concerted efforts to deal with the very real issue of bulling. But are these efforts having an impact? Is your child less likely to be bullied today than he might have been five years ago? The experts are divided on the issue, and some recent research suggests that the answer could be no. Earlier this week, we were driving by a local school. There, right next to the playground was a huge sign declaring the area to be a “No Bully Zone.” I’m not sure why the sign was there. Was it to … Continue reading →

Help Your Child to NOT Look Like a Victim

We teach our children not to talk to strangers and about various aspects of stranger safety and awareness, but we might not know that we can coach our children to physically appear more “together” and less likely to be a victim. I am not talking about harping and harassing a child to “look tough”—but there are things that we can do as parents to help our children learn how to NOT appear like a victim. Years ago, when my younger sister was in college, she took a self-defense class geared toward young women. She learned a great deal about how … Continue reading →

No One Likes a Martyr

Martyrdom and single parenthood do not have to go hand in hand or be interchangeable. I know it can be really tough NOT to feel like a martyr–someone who is giving it up, doing it all, and who is downtrodden and overworked–but no one likes a martyr and it isn’t particularly healthy for us anyway… Think of how YOU feel when you are around someone who is acting like a martyr. It tends to make us feel angry, aggravated, annoyed, and guilty. It is just no fun to be around someone who is doing the “poor me” act. Even if … Continue reading →

Let Go of Feeling Like a Victim

Identifying when we don’t feel good about how we are being treated is healthy; it is also wonderful to be able to protect and take care of ourselves (after all, who else can care for us as well as we can care for ourselves)–but getting stuck feeling like a victim can keep us in a powerless, hopeless place and keep us from taking control and moving forward with our lives as parents, and as individuals. In order to get on with building our families, single parents need to let go of feeling like a victim. Yes, you very well may … Continue reading →

Dealing with a Passive-Aggressive Manipulator (2)

In Dealing with a Passive-Aggressive Manipulator (1), we looked at some of the thoughts patterns, beliefs, and behaviors of the passive-aggressive person. In this article, we will look at ways to minimize the damage they can cause in your life. Because the passive-aggressive person inherently believes they are blameless, innocent, and basically good people, anything that threatens that view of themselves threatens the very core of their being. They live in a world where they must conceal all the “awful” things about themselves at all costs. Yet, for the most, none of these things are awful at all. They are … Continue reading →

Is there a Passive–Aggressive in the house?

Do you live with someone who manipulates you into doing things you don’t want to do, yet you just can’t put your finger on how they do it? Perhaps you have a friend who subtly controls you. Yet it’s done in such a way that there is really nothing definite to point a finger at? Sound familiar? You could be dealing with a Passive–Aggressive manipulator. A relationship with a person who uses passive-aggressive techniques to get their way is frustrating and draining. Perhaps you may not have heard of the term “passive-aggressive” but the behavior will definitely be familiar. The … Continue reading →

What To Do If You Are A Victim Of A Home Invasion.

It was an ordinary Saturday afternoon and everyone was getting antsy for spring to arrive. My mother-in-law lives in a neighborhood with predominately elderly, middle-class people. The sub-division was built in the 1970’s and most of the families have lived there and known each other since the beginning. It seemed that every other garage door was open wide and the men were tweaking with the lawn mowers and other yard tools trying to get a head start on the chores of spring. When it happened to the couple across the street and two doors down from my mother-in-law. A nice … Continue reading →