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Putting Things Into Perspective

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Today I’m going to look at another aspect of perspective. It is keeping things in perspective in marriage. At some point our spouse is going to do things that will anger, hurt or in some way annoy us, but we each need to put those things into perspective in the big picture of a marriage. For example if your husband or wife has an affair, that is a major thing in a relationship. You will need to think seriously about whether you can forgive and trust them again, assuming they are sorry and want to stay together. Basically you and … Continue reading →

Is There Such a Thing As a No-Fault Divorce?

Is there such a thing as a no-fault divorce? The law says there is. But is there really? Let me share with you an example. Some time ago I knew a couple, let’s call them Alice and John. (not their real names)John had an affair with another woman that resulted in him moving out of the family home and setting up home with the other woman. After a time he insisted he wanted a divorce, despite the fact Alice did not. In time he got his way. Now the conclusion that many people who knew this couple was that John … Continue reading →

What Do Men and Women Look for in an Affair?

If you want to protect your marriage from outside affairs, it might be helpful to understand what men and women look for when it comes to an affair. Usually (although not always!) there is something lacking in a relationship that prompts an affair. Affairs can be complicated things, so I don’t want to suggest that things are black and white or that any of these reasons justify having an affair. But numerous studies have suggested that men and women generally are looking for different things, depending on gender, when they are ready to become involved in an affair. I don’t … Continue reading →

What is an Affair?

We all know the definition of an affair, don’t we? But wait! Go ahead and try to define it and it may not be so black and white. Behavior that might be seen as an affair by one couple or even one individual may not been seen as an affair by your own definition or vice versa. For example, is an affair when a spouse engages in sexual intercourse with another person outside of the marriage? Sure, okay, but what about if there is no intercourse, but there is kissing? Does a quick peck on the lips count? How about … Continue reading →

The Danger of Christmas

Following on from Mary Ann’s blog, it is especially important to remember at Christmas when there are Christmas parties happening and lots of events where people have at times had a few drinks. At such times sometimes fuelled by alcohol the inhibitions can tend to relax a little. And so we may need to be a little more vigilant about keeping that hedge up. We have some friends with whom we are on a hugs and kisses, hello and goodbye basis. Since I believe a kiss is a sensual thing, Outside of my husband and adult children no one else … Continue reading →

Love in the Afternoon (1957)

Audrey Hepburn and Gary Cooper star opposite each other in this romantic comedy, set in Paris. Hepburn is Ariane Chavasse, the daughter of Claude Chavasse, private investigator (Maurice Chevalier) who is best known for tracking down unfaithful spouses. His files are full of stories of deception, intrigue, and forbidden love, and Ariane has been reading them like novels, unbeknownst to him. His current client is sure his wife is cheating on him, and after following her around, Claude has the evidence. Madame X is indeed involved with an American by the name of Frank Flannigan (Cooper) a playboy who has … Continue reading →

Straight Talk for Potential Two Timers

You know if this article is for you or not, and if it is, be prepared for straight talk. If you are looking for excuses or validation, you won’t get it from me. It wouldn’t be helpful or honest. In fact, it would be as unfair to you as it would be to your family. Straight talk or tough love is more beneficial because it is honest even if unpopular, and I’m known for being pretty straightforward. So, let’s get down to it. If you cheat on your husband or wife, or are simply thinking about doing so, you won’t … Continue reading →

Indiscreet (1958)

In “Indiscreet,” Anna Kalman (Ingrid Bergman) is an actress who has earned a name for herself on the stage. Her career has kept her from meeting the man of her dreams, and she’s nearly given up hope that she’ll ever marry. But then she meets a co-worker of her brother-in-law’s, and her mind is changed. Phillip Adams (Cary Grant) is everything she has ever dreamed of, and more. He’s dashing, handsome, considerate, charming . . . . well, he’s Cary Grant. You can see why she’d be swept off her feet. There’s just one problem – he’s married. But he’s … Continue reading →

Is Lack of Trust Warranted, or is it Born of Fear?

Trust is obviously huge in any relationship but especially in intimate relationships. No one is completely trusting all the time but some are far more cynical than others are. What leads us to withhold trust from the people we love? It’s worth examining, because it really depends on whether or not the ability to trust, or the lack thereof, is warranted or is based in fear. If your spouse has given you good reason not to trust him or her, such as engaging in an affair or lying about other things, it’s much more difficult to rebuild a sense of … Continue reading →

What if Your Spouse’s Affair Made the News?

Unfortunately, scandal surrounding elected officials in this country is nothing new. Of course, with midterm elections quickly drawing near, we can be sure that more scandals will come to light. Recently, Pennsylvania Republican Don Sherwood created a campaign ad confessing his sin to his constituents. The ad was an apology for cheating on his wife. The mistress also accused him of abuse, but no probable cause was found by police to bring any charges. Still, his opponent is running an ad that not only discusses the affair, but also while referencing “values,” flashes words from the unfounded accusations across the … Continue reading →