Tag Archives: change

Starting Over 101

It is common knowledge that many of us single parents have been or are in the midst of starting over. But, what does that actually mean? Just because we know that what used to be is no more and that we need to build a new life, does not necessarily mean that we know what to do. Here are a few tips for getting down to the basics of starting over… 1. Let Go…you cannot start a new life or even move in a new direction until you let go of the old. This means any clinging, clutching, or resistance … Continue reading →

Changing the Family’s Eating Habits Takes Time

So many of us are trying to eat healthier—and we are trying to inspire our families to eat healthier too. Whether you are trying to make a simple change—like getting more fruits and vegetables into your diet; or if you are contemplating a vegetarian diet or doing a complete overhaul of your families eating habits, it is likely that it will not happen overnight. Allowing for gradual adjustment and individual family members to process and get used to the changes will make it a more successful switch. When I first got divorced many years ago, I decided it would be … Continue reading →

Appetites are Constantly Changing

It starts when they are first born and continues until well, I have not got to the end of it yet so I don’t know how long it continues—but what I do know is that parents naturally fuss about whether or not their child is getting enough to eat, enough of the right sorts of things, and whether the eating habits are healthy or not. The reality that can surprise many new parents is that a child’s appetite changes—it can change in a day or can go in spikes and shifts. Children are not static little robots, nor do they … Continue reading →

Be Ready for Big Leaps

I realized when I was writing earlier that some of my cautionary articles can come across as big downers! I know that many of us single parents are often dealing with all sorts of changes, trials, and transitions but there are some amazingly positive things that happen as well. As a matter of fact, times of big transition can also bring some big leaps into the future! I know, I know—it can seem as though you have been slogging and plodding through the mire of change for a long time. You start to wonder if you will ever see the … Continue reading →

It is Okay to “Fall Into” New Things

We talk a great deal about organization, moving forward and conscious planning here in the Single Parents blog; I thought it would be fair to talk about the other side of evolution. Sometimes, we really do “fall into” new career paths, relationships and life altering changes. This does not have to be a bad thing; in fact, some of the greatest developments in life can be surprises… It is okay to accidentally find yourself in a new circumstance. I know that we single parents may be feeling like the more we can control things, the more intention and purpose we … Continue reading →

There Can Be Risk in All Sorts of Choices

As single parents, many of us often find ourselves trying to do anything we can to minimize and reduce risk. After all, life can feel so precarious much of the time and any safety and security we can create really feels like a good thing. I do think it is important to remember, however, that we have to step outside that safety zone if we are going to stimulate growth and accept the inevitable changes. Most choices—even the best and safest ones—have an element of risk… Let us think this thing through—think of times when you have made a change … Continue reading →

Expect Customers to Balk at Change

Everyone says that the WANT change, that they want new products and things that will make their life easier; if you work in an industry where you consult or work with clients, they may be telling you how much they want fresh blood and new ideas, but when push comes to shove, they may just balk and reject the change you have to offer. If you understand that there is a big part of human nature that fights change, even while individuals are claiming to want it, you might be better able to make changes with your home business operations. … Continue reading →

Acceptance Comes Before Change

Resistance and Denial can be a single parent’s best friends–at least in the beginning. After a while, we realize that all this fighting and resisting we are doing, and all the energy we put into denial may be better spent elsewhere. At some point, the day comes when we realize that acceptance is really the first step before we can make room for real change. When I say “acceptance” I do not mean giving up and giving in. Acceptance is really about ceasing to resist reality and admitting that what is, is. Think of it this way, if you get … Continue reading →

Mix Things Up

I wrote earlier today about how making changes to one’s environment can be an important healing step for a single parent. As I was writing about different ways that sort of environmental change can make a difference in our being able to move forward, I started thinking about how shaking things up in general can be a really great thing… It is amazing how slight shifts in routine and expectations can make such a big difference. Many of us experience this reality negatively when we discover that being 15 minutes late in getting out of bed in the morning can … Continue reading →

Sometimes You May Have to be Dragged Kicking and Screaming

We talk a lot about motivation and growth here in the home business blog. For many of us, getting our home businesses off the ground is only the first major hurdle—staying involved, motivated, and focused on building our businesses is a challenging, full-time focus for us too. Keeping track of the daily details may be the forest that keeps us from seeing the trees that are change and progress. It may take something drastic to drag us into the future with our businesses—whether we want to or not! Growing pains are hard! Even if we have put a lot of … Continue reading →