Tag Archives: hurt feelings

Is It Ever Right to Lie?

Is it ever right to lie in a marriage? Recently on the TV show ‘Lie to Me’ they were talking about the different ways of lying and that most people tell white lies. Should we differentiate and try to make some lies seem less serious than others. Why might you or your spouse lie? Sometimes it can be to spare the other person’s feelings. She asks, ‘what’s the matter?’ You don’t want to answer because you’re frightened it will only lead to an argument or to tears. So you shrug and say nothing. Is that any less hurtful? You ask … Continue reading →

Who Should Hold My Crying Baby?

I’m struggling with a seemingly never-ending dilemma of how long to let my baby cry when others are holding her. I want her grandparents, aunts, uncles, and others to be able to spend time with her. I realize that by holding her, they are able to bond with her and get to know her. However, I also don’t want this to happen at the expense of my daughter feeling secure and safe. Yes, she loves them, but there is no substitute for the kind of comfort and security a mother can provide. I’ve come up with a few ways to … Continue reading →

When There’s a Problem, Deal With It!

Yesterday we looked at the little things in marriage that can be a problem. As well as not letting them build up, there is another reason those who run marriage preparation courses advocate dealing with the little things. If you can’t talk about the little things how are you ever going to be able to talk about the big things in your marriage? Communication is something that needs to be practiced and made a habit, we not only take into our marriages but keep up once we are married. Sometimes we may think we don’t want to talk about certain … Continue reading →

Arguments Cause Hurt Feelings

Arguments may be inevitable in family life, as are those power struggles and disagreements, but the truth is even if one person feels like they “win” an argument, someone always gets hurt feelings. Often, both sides have hurt feelings by the end of the argument and how can this make an argument worthwhile? I am not saying that we should not express our emotions or teach our children how to say when they are angry, frustrated, or aggravated, but I do think that we need to keep in mind that the outcome of an argument is generally hurt feelings. Whether … Continue reading →

Hurt Feelings and Rejection

In a recent poll conducted by Child Magazine, 71% of respondents oppose policies that are designed to protect a child’s feelings of rejection. This includes not keeping scores at sporting events and giving all players, not just the winners, trophies. This was the first time I had heard of such a policy and I must say I am shocked that such a policy would exist. Rejection is a part of life and kids have to learn to deal with it. Are we doing our kids a disservice by not preparing them for the real world? In a word, “yes”. Remember … Continue reading →

Feeling Rejected–A Mother’s Perspective

Ah, rejection! Had someone told us when we started out as parents that we would have our hearts so broken and battered by these tiny little innocent creatures, do you think we would have believed them? What a cruel joke it is that we are told to embrace “attachment parenting,” to bond and devote ourselves to our children–all the while their job is to push, pull and run to get away and forge out on their own as independent people. How do we wrestle with all the various stages and versions of feeling rejected?! Recently, I was talking with an … Continue reading →

RS/EQ: Choose Your Feelings

Have you ever had a lesson that you have sincerely struggled over? This seems to be that lesson for me. As I have studied Elder Bednar’s talk, and scriptures related, I find myself in full agreement. When someone at church says something offensive (which is rare), I can easily shake it off. It is when the people close to me hurt me that I struggle most. I understand that I need to remove anger and resentment from my feelings, but how does one manage not to be hurt when offended by those you most love? I have struggled with this … Continue reading →

Dealing with Stereotypes about Homeschoolers

I just read a post (on a paid membership blog site) written by a mom who is currently homeschooling one of her children due to the child’s diabetes. She says she was treated rudely by homeschoolers because she was not dressed in a skirt and blouse like other “homeschooling freaks”. Her t-shirt and jeans made her stand out and the freaks looked at her as if she were the freak. I was shocked and appalled, as I had been reading this persons blog for a while and they had never said anything so careless before. The comments were hard to … Continue reading →

Tips For Dealing With Hurt Feelings On Valentine’s Day

Next month we celebrate Valentine’s Day. When I was in elementary and middle school, we exchanged cards and candy with our classmates. I remember how we would eagerly count our stash to see just who had the most cards. I also remember that some of my classmates didn’t receive many cards and I always felt sorry for those kids. I always gave each of classmates a card, even the ones I didn’t like. My close friends received candy as well as a card. Another thing I recall about Valentine’s Day was that this seemed to be the day when secret … Continue reading →