Tag Archives: marriage problems

Forever Young

We’ve all heard the old adage, ‘you’re only as old as you feel.’ It’s true, up to a point. But the March 23 issue of Time magazine has an article by Catherine Mayer on Amortality. No, that’s not a misprint. Amortality is her coined word for those who insist on acting, dressing behaving the same at 40, 50 or 60 or beyond as they did when they were teenagers. It strikes me that sometimes this is also at the heart of marriage problems. Men and women are searching for this secret to staying young and as a result end up … Continue reading →

Picture of a Marriage

Yesterday Mick and I had a day date and went to the movies to see ‘Revolutionary Road.’ It is a movie about a marriage. So often we hear that it is women who want to talk out their problems and men who don’t listen. In this case he often wanted to talk about the problems but the wife didn’t want to talk about the problems they were experiencing. The crowd, with the exception of a few brave men like my husband, was predominately female. A collective gasp ran around the theater like a current of electricity when he raised his … Continue reading →

Are You Breaking Faith, Emotionally?

We all have friends or confidants that we enjoy talking to. We call them after a bad day; we call them after a good day. We may get together with them once or twice a week to just hang out and have a cup of coffee and a chat about all the things that are wrong or right that day. We need these friendships and those friendships sustain is in the workplace, while we are volunteering, outside of our kids activities as we swap stories in the 45 minutes or so we have to stand around and wait. But when … Continue reading →

Control Issues & Jealousy

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What is a control issue and what does it have to do with marriage? Control issues usually take place in a marriage when one partner or the other or both are feeling jealous, threatened, insecure or possessive. Those negative emotions can spawn a need to control what is happening in their life, even when they have no ability to apply control or to influence the outcome. It can be even worse for their partner as they try to control them as well. Loss of Control Control issues and jealousy do not always go hand in hand, but if you’ve ever … Continue reading →

Marriage Advice: Different Styles of Discipline in Your Marriage

How you discipline your children or how you plan to discipline your children are not likely topics of discussion for two people planning to get married. If you did talk about this prior to getting married and worked out a number of these issues ahead of time, my hat is off to you. My husband and I were together for many years before we were married and our daughter arrived just shortly after our first anniversary. As an infant, discipline wasn’t really an issue – discipline doesn’t really start until your children are older. Discipline Can Make Your Marriage Bumpy … Continue reading →

Working Through Stress Together

Stuff happens, and usually when we least expect it or when we are already under pressure and just don’t think we can take any more. The unfortunate thing about becoming overwhelmed is that it is very easy to take it out on the people who are closest to us. It’s not unusual for this to occur, but it’s something we have to work to avoid. Even if you feel better temporarily after blowing off steam, it will be short lived. You’ll feel worse long term for having taken things out on your spouse. It helps to devise a system for … Continue reading →

Marriage & Asexuality – What Does It Mean?

We talked some earlier today about the trouble a wife may have with her interest in sexual relations due to a weight gain and her own self perception, but there are others reasons why sexual relations between a couple may become troubled or distant. When one partner or the other is asexual, there can be a distinct drop in the sexual relations between the man and the woman. What Does it Mean to be Asexual? An asexual individual is one who lacks any interest in sexual relations. They may have once been described as frigid or impotent, but it’s a … Continue reading →

Don’t Quarrel in Front of the Kids

This may seem like a no-brainer, but we all do it. It can be hard to balance your marriage needs versus your duties as a parent – but in this area – your duty as a parent and as a marriage partner actually sync up. It’s important to recognize that when you and your partner have serious disagreements that need serious discussion – you don’t need an audience adult or child based. When you have disagreements in front of an audience, you are inviting them to participate in your disagreement, debate or quarrel. I wouldn’t imagine anyone wants their children … Continue reading →

A Season of Healing

The holidays are a season of healing. We are encouraged to embrace our fellow man, to share a smile with a sister mother and to beam at the children who are bubbling over with excitement for the decorations and more. Everywhere you go during the holidays there is something to smile about and all of these feelings of good will and kindness are advantageous for you and your partner to resolve issues both large and small. Healing a Troubled Marriage Have you and your spouse been experiencing some distance or disagreement in your marriage? Troubled marriages benefit from this time … Continue reading →

The Marriage Week in Review – October 7 – 13

Another week down in the month of October and just two weeks to go until we arrive in November and the beauty of planning a Holiday Wedding or celebrating an anniversary in what for many people is one of the warmest emotional times of the year. Personally, I can’t wait for Christmas music, but in the meanwhile, we still have Halloween and time change to get through. Be sure to note on your calendars that October 29th is the day time changes and we’ll be rolling the clocks back an hour. Another great benefit to the crisp fall air in … Continue reading →