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Changing Patterns in Marriage

As you look through the kaleidoscope of marriage, you will see changing patterns. Firstly there is the honeymoon stage, where you’re so in love and it’s all new and exciting. But not everyone finds the first year of marriage to be exciting. Some people find it decidedly stressful as they adapt to a marriage partner. This is followed, for most people, by the pattern of one or more children. Again that will depend on circumstances and what the couple decide. Children are a great blessing, but they also mean changes and added stress in a marriage. Sometimes a husband can … Continue reading →

Should You Stay Together for the Children?

Being in an unhappy marriage is a miserable feeling. Often couples begin very happy and in love. However, as time goes on, the couple begins to grow apart and their lives change. Divorce seems to be an option. However, some couples or one of the partners choose not to opt for divorce. It is not that they wish to hold on to the marriage. It is that they feel that they need to stay together for their children. Teaching, I see children living in all types of situations. It is very sad for children to not know which house they … Continue reading →

Is Your Marriage All about the Children?

I think most couples with children will agree that they cannot remember the days without children. I often wonder what I did with all of the extra time. My life must have been very boring. Children consume much time and energy of their parents. Couples find that their time alone with one another is limited or nonexistent. Their complete conversation can often turn to talk about their children. It can be difficult to have an adult conversation or even ask one another about his/her day. This is especially true when small children are involved. Parents get less sleep when they … Continue reading →

Children Lead the Way to Marriage Strife

If you’re just married and you’re planning a wonderful life together, here are few tips about what to expect when you have your first child together. The birth of a child is a wondrous thing and it will have a profound effect on you and your spouse. But the stresses and changes that occur due to the birth of a child can often lead to the first major blow up in the marriage. Why? So why does the birth of a child (this fantastic, wondrous event) because so much stress on a couple? In large part, it’s because Mom now … Continue reading →

Your Children and Your Marriage

We already talked about how our marriages can affect our children, but our children can also affect our marriages, sometimes in good ways but unfortunately in not such good ways as well. There are times when our little darlings can come between us even though that is not actually their intention. It usually occurs when one parent is strict and the other is more lenient. Kids subconsciously learn to pit parents against each other when the two do not present a united front. It is easy to manipulate us, because we adore them. We want our kids to be happy, … Continue reading →

Marriage, Kids, and PDA

If you have kids in school, you likely already know that PDA stands for public displays of affection, and that such action is generally forbidden in schools. I can understand it to a point, and the hands-off approach is probably best during the school day. However, when it comes to us married people, there is nothing wrong with PDA. In fact, public displays of affection are healthy. I am clearly not talking about groping each other in public, but holding hands, putting an arm around your spouse’s shoulder, or a hug are certainly acceptable. I think it is important to … Continue reading →

From Marrieds to Marents – What You Need to Know

Who knows of the possibilities of love when men and women share not only children, home and garden, not only the fulfillment of their biological roles, but the responsibilities and passions of the work that creates the human future and the full human knowledge of who they are? – Betty Friedan What is a Marent? A marent is what I call someone who is married and adjusting to parenthood and the lines between being married and being a parent are blurred to indistinct. Now let me begin by saying there is nothing wrong with there being something indistinct between the … Continue reading →

How Marriage Affects Children

The way you and your spouse deal with issues in your marriage does affect your children, one way or another. Even when you don’t think they’re paying attention, they are absorbing details. As a writer, one of the first things I learned was “Show, don’t tell.” Simply put this means writing should be descriptive, but should still allow the reader to use his or her imagination. Instead of saying, “From the look of the sky, it seemed like it was going to storm any minute,” one might say, “The sky was heavy with dark, angry clouds.” The latter helps create … Continue reading →

Married with Children: Being the Bad Guy

In households where one spouse is the main disciplinarian, the other spouse may begin to resent always being the bad guy. It is important for married couples to present a united front for their children, and to share child rearing decisions, even those that are unpleasant. No one wants to be the parent that always enforces the rules, gives out chores, or metes out discipline. It’s not fair to make one person responsible for all the “dirty work.” Mothers and fathers both love their children, but both also want to be liked. We know we don’t do our kids any … Continue reading →