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Three Simple Rules for Anyone Attending a Birth

 This post is dedicated to all of the fathers, partners, husbands, and others who will be attending births in the near future. While we, the pregnant women, appreciate your willingness and desire to be present at the births of our children, we do respectfully request that you follow a few ground rules during your participation in this important event. Here are a few suggestions to keep in mind when the time comes. Rule number one. Everything changes once those contractions start coming. It does not matter what I said last month, last week, yesterday, or even this morning. It does … Continue reading →

Finally Found The Dress

I should have known that the relationship with the in-laws was not going to be great, I would have been happy with tolerable. Seeing as I had no friends in Texas yet I had very few choices when it came to choosing someone to go wedding dress shopping with me. I chose to take my fiancee with me; I know superstition says he should not have seen me in my dress before the wedding day. I do not believe in superstition. I wanted my one friend in Texas to come with me and he did. I was not looking for … Continue reading →

Well I Guess I am Sorry

So after a Christmas straight from a horror movie, my fiancee spoke to his father and explained all the things that his mother had done to make me feel unwelcomed in their home and family. My future father in law went home and talked to his wife and explained what she did and how it made her son and I feel. I do not know if he did this because he really thought she did something wrong or if he just said that to make his son happy. A few days later my future mother in law came to the … Continue reading →

First Christmas Together

So I met my future husband for the first time in September and the in-laws did not seem like they were big fans of mine. Maybe I was wrong but after the good-byes at the airport when I headed home to Massachusetts I was not really feeling the love from my future in-laws. When I talked to my fiancee about the incident at the airport he thought that his parents were just being protective, but he still had the image of how I was going to be best of friends with his family. He still pictured his sister (who is … Continue reading →

Meeting the In-Laws

When I met my husband he kept telling me that he just knew that I was going to be great friends with his sister and that his family was just going to love me. He could just imagine all the times that his mom, sister and I would go shopping or out to lunch. Love must have made me gullible because reality is nowhere near what he thought it would be. My husband and I met in a rather unusual manner; I was working in Massachusetts for a company that represented the company in Texas that he worked for. We … Continue reading →

Be Careful

One of the things we need to be careful about is in-laws, not just when we are with them but in the comments we make about them. We all know the jokes about mother-in–laws. There’s often some basis for it, in that mothers in particular seem to have trouble letting go of family and sharing them with the new spouse. I know some of you in the forums have experienced these problems. You might find that your spouse’s mother for example is too demanding of their time. You might find them overbearing or protective or you fill in……whatever the particular … Continue reading →

My Mother-in-Law

The other day Dale wrote an article entitled “Are You the Exception to the Rule?”. It was about relationships with mother-in-laws, in particular ones that are very amicable. As I commented on Dale’s blog, I have a bit of an unconventional relationship with my mother-in-law. Wayne’s Mom As many of you regular readers know, Wayne and I have been together for over 20 years. (This past May, we celebrated 22 years together. And in a little over a week, we’ll celebrate our 13th wedding anniversary.) I knew Wayne’s dad very well. I met him right at the beginning of our … Continue reading →

Are You the Exception to the Rule?

We’ve all heard the jokes about mother in laws. They seem to be standard fair of comedians. And yes, I’ve seen some mother in law and daughter in law or son in law relationships that give credence to those jokes. But then there are the others. Years ago I knew a lady whose relationship with her daughter in law was so beautiful. When people heard her talk about Jill you could hear the love in her voice. People always assumed she was talking about her daughter. When they found out Jill was her daughter in law they were stunned. Should … Continue reading →

How Wayne Welcomed His Mother-in-Law

Michele left a comment on the article I wrote about bringing my mom home with me to the effect “but at least you can take consolation in the fact that you have a great partner in Wayne.” She might have said this because in my article I explained how he was the one who first proposed bringing my mom to live with us before I even had a chance to ask him about it. A truer statement has never been made. Wayne is an amazing partner. And I think that’s such a key word. We are truly a team. We … Continue reading →

What You Can Learn from How He Treats His Mother

I have always believed that you can tell a lot about a man from the way that he treats his mother and the way that his mother treats him. Before getting married it is not a bad idea to hang out your mate and his mom. If he treats his mom with respect then you may be in good shape. Having a man that respects women is a plus. Does he open the door for her? Does he talk politely to her? Both of these things can tell you a lot about how he feels about women. A man that … Continue reading →